Wedding or Football game

**cyclonedave25** · 09-20-2010, 09:25 PM

Originally Posted by GoCubsGo

He must not be much of a friend if you are even considering skipping his wedding to see us play an FCS team.

He's obviously a friend, but not a best friend.
For example: we didn't really hang out in high school because he was in the class below mine and didn't play the same sports as me. And it's not like I ever went to stay with him during college on the weekends to party.

**nj829** · 09-20-2010, 09:26 PM

First wedding for both of them? I assume so, but if not, no need to go. Can you sign the guest book then go to the game?

**cyclonedave25** · 09-20-2010, 09:30 PM

Originally Posted by nj829

First wedding for both of them? I assume so, but if not, no need to go. Can you sign the guest book then go to the game?

Yes, first wedding for them.
It would be a lot easier if the game was at 11 or 2:30, so I could make both.

**Al_4_State** · 09-20-2010, 09:41 PM

If you aren't in the wedding, then go to the game.

Honestly, if he's a good friend, he'll understand. If I was enough of an *** to get married in the fall, I'd make damn sure it was not on a weekend where someone close to me had season tickets to a game. And if it was, I wouldn't hold it against them.

And the "we couldn't find another weekend" excuse is just that. An excuse.

**BoxsterCy** · 09-20-2010, 09:52 PM

Doesn't sound like he is really your friend or that you are much or a friend to him if you are skipping his wedding for a football game.

**bosco** · 09-20-2010, 09:56 PM

The First rule of the Dude is...You DO NOT Schedule weddings during football season!

The Second rule of the Dude is...You DO NOT schedule weddings during football season!

**cyclonedave25** · 09-20-2010, 09:58 PM

Originally Posted by BoxsterCy

Doesn't sound like he is really your friend or that you are much or a friend to him if you are skipping his wedding for a football game.

There's obviously a lot of difference in opinions here.

Yes, I am his friend. No, not his best friend. He knows I am a huge cyclone fan. He knows he made a mistake scheduling it the week of college football.
One of the big reasons I am not going is not only because of the football game, but also because I don't get along with some of his other friends that will be there. We have our major differences.

**cyrocksmypants** · 09-20-2010, 10:05 PM

Unless it's your wedding or a family members wedding, I don't see the issue of not going.

Seriously, guys, if you've been to one wedding, you've been to them all. I'd rather be celebrating a Cyclone victory instead of dancing the Electric Slide any day of the week.

**CycloneGB** · 09-20-2010, 10:07 PM

Along the same topic, one of my other friends scheduled a bachelor party for the Saturday of the Texas Tech game. Upon getting invited, all involved said it was not an option and now the bachelor party includes tailgating for the game.

If you're going to schedule a wedding during football season, you have to expect that some of the fringe guests are not going to come in favor of the game. I don't see how anybody would be upset about this unless it is family or a very close friend.

**theshadow** · 09-20-2010, 10:11 PM

Originally Posted by cyrocksmypants

Seriously, guys, if you've been to one wedding, you've been to them all. I'd rather be celebrating a Cyclone victory instead of dancing the Electric Slide any day of the week.

Just play Strokin' over the PA instead of Sweet Caroline.

Two birds. One stone.

**Al_4_State** · 09-20-2010, 10:57 PM

I really don't see why it's so hard to schedule weddings in the spring or summer, unless you have some kind of occupation that would prevent. My girlfriend and I have discussed having a longer than normal engagement, if we ever got to that point, in order to schedule the wedding at an optimum time. Seriously, if you're intent is to spend the rest of your life with that person, what's a little longer engagement?

**CycloneGB** · 09-20-2010, 11:01 PM

Originally Posted by Al_4_State

I really don't see why it's so hard to schedule weddings in the spring or summer, unless you have some kind of occupation that would prevent. My girlfriend and I have discussed having a longer than normal engagement, if we ever got to that point, in order to schedule the wedding at an optimum time. Seriously, if you're intent is to spend the rest of your life with that person, what's a little longer engagement?

Maybe some people can't wait to consummate the thing!

**wxman1** · 09-20-2010, 11:44 PM

I'm skipping my cousins wedding which is at 4:30 the day of the Tech game...

**isukendall** · 09-21-2010, 12:18 AM

Equally as annoying as during football season, are weddings scheduled during Memorial Day, Labor Day, or other holiday weekends such as 4th of July or Christmas (yes, people get married on Christmas weekend). I hate that everyone thinks it's "more convenient" for you to skip your three-day weekend doing other fun stuff you had planned with family or friends, so that you can travel to their wedding. I seriously haven't done anything for Labor Day weekend besides weddings for the last three years.

**CycloneYoda** · 09-21-2010, 12:20 AM

Originally Posted by cyclonedave25

Now, I know what most of you will say, but I just want to know if it really is a d*ck move on my part.
So, my friend is getting married this Saturday (who happens to be a UNI grad and hawkeye fan

). Stupid I know, and I already yelled at him for scheduling his wedding this weekend. This of all weekends is probably the worst for a wedding, UNI vs ISU and Iowa has a home football game as well. He told me that this was the only weekend they could get everything scheduled and rented out for the wedding/reception. (it was a short engagement).
My mind is made up, as well as a couple of my friends who frequent CF, that we decided we are skipping the wedding and going to the game instead. I am not changing my mind, no matter what is said.
Now my question is: Should I really be attending this wedding instead of the game? Take off your diehard fan sunglasses and answer truthfully. Have any of you skipped you friends' wedding for a football game? If so, was the groom understanding or mad at you?
On a side note: I don't get along with some of his other friends that will be there. Not that we fight all the time, but I just don't care for them. And one of them is engaged to my high school girlfriend. POS.

There should be a rule that if you schedule your wedding during a college football weekend and your team has a home game, that people are not obligated to attend, unless they are the bestman.

If the logistics work out, this is a no-brainer. However, the plan is contingent on the idea that you can make it to both. Instead of skipping the wedding and going to the reception, you should go to the wedding, skip the reception, and then head to Ames ASAP. Your buddy may get ******, but his new wife will appreciate the fact that you actually made it to the ceremony. She'll do chick stuff and things will be back to normal in 2 minutes. Now, have your date drive to Ames so you can tip a few. Sure, you will miss some tailgating, but bars are indeed open after the game, and you will be one of the few that can still stand after midnight.