Wedding or Football game

**Palmer** · 09-21-2010, 01:14 PM

Weddings are nonsense money/gift grabs!

use to be simple affairs that have blown up to satisfy our materialistic, devilish ways.

everyone can just **** off!

(turns on PS3)

**Land Grant** · 09-21-2010, 01:14 PM

Hell, I'd go to the wedding. More chance of a score there than at the game.

**Palmer** · 09-21-2010, 01:18 PM

Originally Posted by Land Grant

Hell, I'd go to the wedding. More chance of a score there than at the game.

rimshot

**Al_4_State** · 09-21-2010, 02:35 PM

Originally Posted by GeronimusClone

Some of you guys are really crappy friends.

Is it any crappier than scheduling your wedding at a time that forces your friends to choose between you and something else they love?

In my opinion the person who schedules their wedding for a date that they know will cause conflicts is equally as selfish as the person who wants to go the game, assuming they demand their friend be there. Personally, I'd feel like a dick making my friends choose between me and that, and I wouldn't hold against someone for missing the wedding.

If you schedule a wedding during football season, and you have friends who love football, either be ok with some people missing it, or schedule it some other time.

A good friend of mine is getting married this fall on Nov. 13th, and they chose that date because Iowa and ISU both have road games. No one has to choose.

**GeronimusClone** · 09-21-2010, 02:48 PM

Originally Posted by Al_4_State

Is it any crappier than scheduling your wedding at a time that forces your friends to choose between you and something else they love?

In my opinion the person who schedules their wedding for a date that they know will cause conflicts is equally as selfish as the person who wants to go the game, assuming they demand their friend be there. Personally, I'd feel like a dick making my friends choose between me and that, and I wouldn't hold against someone for missing the wedding.

If you schedule a wedding during football season, and you have friends who love football, either be ok with some people missing it, or schedule it some other time.

A good friend of mine is getting married this fall on Nov. 13th, and they chose that date because Iowa and ISU both have road games. No one has to choose.

It's a wedding. Most times the guy has no choice when it is. He just has to show up and not **** anything up. It helps when his friends show up.
I guess I have my priorities messed up.

**Sawyer** · 09-21-2010, 02:49 PM

Its called a cell phone you can check scores on it.

**jdoggivjc** · 09-21-2010, 02:55 PM

Originally Posted by Al_4_State

Is it any crappier than scheduling your wedding at a time that forces your friends to choose between you and something else they love?

In my opinion the person who schedules their wedding for a date that they know will cause conflicts is equally as selfish as the person who wants to go the game, assuming they demand their friend be there. Personally, I'd feel like a dick making my friends choose between me and that, and I wouldn't hold against someone for missing the wedding.

If you schedule a wedding during football season, and you have friends who love football, either be ok with some people missing it, or schedule it some other time.

A good friend of mine is getting married this fall on Nov. 13th, and they chose that date because Iowa and ISU both have road games. No one has to choose.

The problem with your assumption is that weddings typically aren't about what the groom wants - it's all about what the bride wants. Now, obviously, there is give/take, but if the bride wants an autumn wedding on a particular date, then it's going to be on that date, and she doesn't give a damn if there's a football game that may take place on that day.

Like I said, for my wedding, there was only one possible date that gave us 6+ months of planning time, was a weekend the bride's father had off, and allowed us to do the ceremony by the end of the year, and it happened to fall on the ISU-Nebraska game in 2006. Guess what - I didn't give a crap whether I was going to be able to watch the football game or not, that was the day we were going to do the wedding.

So you're girlfriend and you have had the conversation and have compromised such that your wedding will not fall during football season. That's awesome, and honestly I'm happy for you that your schedule is free enough to be able to plan it out that way. However, it just doesn't work out that way for everybody.

**cyclonedave25** · 09-21-2010, 03:01 PM

Originally Posted by Sawyer

Its called a cell phone you can check scores on it.

If that's the case, why do people even bother buying tickets in the first place?? Just think of all the money you can save by not going to game and just using your cell phone to check scores..

**isufbcurt** · 09-21-2010, 03:02 PM

My wedding reception is on the same day as the Big 12 Championship, if by chance ISU makes it I would perfer my friends go to the game. Either way if ISU makes it or not I'll have a tv at the reception so I can catch part of the game. Oh yeah, I picked the date lol.

**VeloClone** · 09-21-2010, 03:29 PM

Originally Posted by isufbcurt

My wedding reception is on the same day as the Big 12 Championship, if by chance ISU makes it I would perfer my friends go to the game. Either way if ISU makes it or not I'll have a tv at the reception so I can catch part of the game. Oh yeah, I picked the date lol.

I think you are safe.

**RedBlooded** · 09-21-2010, 03:31 PM

Originally Posted by cyclonedave25

If that's the case, why do people even bother buying tickets in the first place?? Just think of all the money you can save by not going to game and just using your cell phone to check scores..

thats how i do it cyclonedave. RedBlooded is on a tight budget.

**Al_4_State** · 09-21-2010, 03:34 PM

Originally Posted by jdoggivjc

The problem with your assumption is that weddings typically aren't about what the groom wants - it's all about what the bride wants. Now, obviously, there is give/take, but if the bride wants an autumn wedding on a particular date, then it's going to be on that date, and she doesn't give a damn if there's a football game that may take place on that day.

Like I said, for my wedding, there was only one possible date that gave us 6+ months of planning time, was a weekend the bride's father had off, and allowed us to do the ceremony by the end of the year, and it happened to fall on the ISU-Nebraska game in 2006. Guess what - I didn't give a crap whether I was going to be able to watch the football game or not, that was the day we were going to do the wedding.

So you're girlfriend and you have had the conversation and have compromised such that your wedding will not fall during football season. That's awesome, and honestly I'm happy for you that your schedule is free enough to be able to plan it out that way. However, it just doesn't work out that way for everybody.

I'm not attacking you, nor do I mean it personally. It obviously wasn't a problem for you or any of your friends, and that's cool. No worries, right? And I don't get the impression you would be mad at a non-member of the wedding party if they HAD been going to that game. I'm not saying that people who schedule a fall wedding are being selfish, I'm saying they're selfish if they expect everyone they know to choose between the two, and get mad at them for choosing against the wedding. If that day was the only day your father in law could be at the wedding, than it is what it is. That's not a situation we're faced with, luckily.

My girlfriend doesn't really care when the wedding is, so long as it isn't winter and knows that I'd be vehemently opposed to a fall wedding for the exact situations discussed here. Fall is an awful time for us anyways, because my family farms. A fall wedding FOR US would be 100% impractical, as would a spring wedding, to a lesser extent.

**MNCyGuy** · 09-21-2010, 03:51 PM

Originally Posted by GeronimusClone

It's a wedding. Most times the guy has no choice when it is. He just has to show up and not **** anything up. It helps when his friends show up.
I guess I have my priorities messed up.

No, you're right on GC. I like what Al posts 99% of the time but his view on this is skewed because everyone he is friends with (it sounds like, could be wrong) are die-hard ISU/college football fans. I love football too, but I'm not going to schedule my life around, much less expect somebody else to do it just because I'm their friend. If you are really good friends with this guy you should be hoping he only gets married once. There will be 11 other ISU games this year and 12 more every other year until the end of time. You do **** you don't want for your friends, because they are your friends and they would do it, or something similar, for you.

Now, if you're just a casual acquaintance or drifted friend of this guy, who cares. I skipped a wedding for the Iowa game last year, but I also hadn't had a conversation over 5 minutes with the guy since we graduated high school 5 years previos.

**clones_jer** · 09-21-2010, 03:59 PM

jdogg - she's got your balls in a vise dude ... the only possible scenerios I see for putting the wedding day on a game day is if you need to get hitched quickly to legitimize the child or because 1 of you is getting deported.

If you're engaged for more than 1 calendar year in advance - it better not be on a gameday. If you can swing it for a hawkeye home game to put those bastard friends in a tough position all the better.

If your wife is straight off the bridezilla shows you can do better

BARE BONES MINIMUM - have that **** on at the reception on a tv somewhere.

**cyrocksmypants** · 09-21-2010, 04:19 PM

He's already said he's not really good friends with the guy and he's only met her once. In fact, he's said it multiple times.

That being said, I feel you guys are contradicting yourselves. If the guy has no say in when the wedding is, it's obviously not a huge deal and obviously won't matter to him if one of his not-so-close friends is there.