First Pregnancy

**Senolcyc** · 07-11-2012, 08:24 AM

Originally Posted by Clonehomer

The biggest piece of advice I can give is to never let them them sleep in your bed. Put them in a crib or cradle from the first day you bring them home. We've had friends that can't get their kids to sleep by themselves for over a year because they didn't start as a baby. Even if you have to put the cradle in your room just teach them to sleep alone from day 1.

That is really good advice. When they are a little older, it can be an occasional "treat," but you sure don't want it to be the norm. Crib in the bedroom is fine. But the nursery is fine, too; that's what baby monitors are for.

It's actually dangerous for newborns to sleep in bed with the parents. And there is zero actual benefit to doing it.

**ISUcy08** · 07-11-2012, 08:25 AM

We just found out my wife is pregnant last Tuesday! Went to the doctor on Monday to confirm it. Our first also! She took two tests 5 days before Aunt Flo came because she knew something was up. Both positive. I was out of town so she texted me a picture of the test early in the morning... Imagine waking up to that! Sounds like your wife is prego too.

**cyrevkah** · 07-11-2012, 08:33 AM

Originally Posted by simply1

So my wife thinks she's pregnant, we are trying for our first, so we're hopeful. Anyways, the test was faded line which indicates some hormone is present. Just curious how soon your wives "knew"? Also any tips to prepare myself for a little one, seems crazy they just give you this little thing to take home. ;)

Looking back, my first warning should have been that some smells caught me off guard and were not appealing to me anymore.... like the Philly steak sandwich at Hilton. For the first trimester smells were more sensitive to me.

Angie had really good advice about retaking the test first thing in the morning.

**Angie** · 07-11-2012, 08:36 AM

Originally Posted by cyrevkah

Looking back, my first warning should have been that some smells caught me off guard and were not appealing to me anymore.... like the Philly steak sandwich at Hilton. For the first trimester smells were more sensitive to me.

Angie had really good advice about retaking the test first thing in the morning.

Oh, the smells. That lasted all pregnancy long for me. I already have a very strong sense of smell, but stuff would push me over the edge during pregnancy, I'd gag. We almost had to get rid of our rabbit.

**ISUcy08** · 07-11-2012, 08:37 AM

Originally Posted by cyrevkah

Looking back, my first warning should have been that some smells caught me off guard and were not appealing to me anymore.... like the Philly steak sandwich at Hilton. For the first trimester smells were more sensitive to me.

Angie had really good advice about retaking the test first thing in the morning.

My wife's only symptom right now is farting. They are so bad it would make an attacking bear think twice. I'm serious. Not even trying to be funny. Makes my eyes water.

**cyrevkah** · 07-11-2012, 08:40 AM

Originally Posted by ISUcy08

My wife's only symptom right now is farting. They are so bad it would make an attacking bear think twice. I'm serious. Not even trying to be funny. Makes my eyes water.

The baby books say that is normal...and may be worse/more frequent as the time goes....

**cyrevkah** · 07-11-2012, 08:41 AM

Originally Posted by Angie

Oh, the smells. That lasted all pregnancy long for me. I already have a very strong sense of smell, but stuff would push me over the edge during pregnancy, I'd gag. We almost had to get rid of our rabbit.

There is one smell that really really bothers me, and I don't understand why. My mom washed some clothes for me using an organic and supposedly nonsmelly soap...but I can't stand the smell! Oh well

**Cybirdy** · 07-11-2012, 08:45 AM

Congrats! Hopefully subsequent tests will give you the same positive answer.

There really is no real preparation after you've done the things like buy diapers, carseat, ect. With our first we were anxious to get home from the hospital--the nurses were always in ever few hours, no one was getting sleep. We figured if we were home in our own environment things would be better. Wrong. ;) We got home late afternoon/early evening and none of us got sleep until about 8am the next day.

Get your wife a pregnancy journal. I found them to be helpful to write stuff down. Then if you ever have another one, you can look back and remember when things happened during pregnancy. Did one for the first two and wished I would've done one for the third.

Get them started as a Cyclone from day one. :)

**Acylum** · 07-11-2012, 08:51 AM

Originally Posted by Let's Go State

Congratulations!!!!!! (maybe)

Usually she knew in a few weeks with morning sickness, and other signs.

There is no preparation. Your life totally changes; priorities, free time, fears, excitement, etc... But it is all worth it, and it is an awesome ride. Savor every new victory - sitting up, crawling, standing up, walking, first word, first sentence, etc..... And try to help with 60% of the work.....your wife is going to go through 8+ sucky months.....you owe it to her.

Whoa, let's not get carried away here.

**Vicarious** · 07-11-2012, 09:01 AM

Hopefully congrats are in order - you might want to call your doctor and ask what lab they want your pregnancey test at. It takes longer but the doctor will want an official result, no matter what a home pregnancy kit says.

My advice would be to get your financial house in order. Get a will, power of attorney, etc. drawn up now because it takes a while and you won't have time later. Also start the college fund (a 529 gets my vote) as soon as the baby is born. We did a monthly direct deposit for each kid and it has made paying for college sooo much easier.

The best advice I ever got about babies came from a co-worker just before I delivered. I was pretty nervous because I new nothing about kids, especially infants. She told me not to worry to much about being the perfect parent because your baby is new to everything too and he won't be able to tell if you know what you are doing or not either.

**Boxerdaddy** · 07-11-2012, 09:03 AM

Originally Posted by tejasclone

But that's all women, all the time. Amiright, fellas?

**simply1** · 07-11-2012, 09:22 AM

Originally Posted by ISUcy08

We just found out my wife is pregnant last Tuesday! Went to the doctor on Monday to confirm it. Our first also! She took two tests 5 days before Aunt Flo came because she knew something was up. Both positive. I was out of town so she texted me a picture of the test early in the morning... Imagine waking up to that! Sounds like your wife is prego too.

Congrats, I hope to follow your path, my wife texted me a picture of the test, and on my phone I couldn't tell what it was very well so I'm like what's that exactly, lol.

**simply1** · 07-11-2012, 09:27 AM

Thanks for the help everyone, some great ideas in here.

Re-test early in the morning for highest levels of the hormone.

Work my butt off getting things set up now, haha.

Pregnancy journal is interesting, hadn't heard of that one!

Currently the wife is very gassy, which is uhm unusual, and sore breasts.

**Angie** · 07-11-2012, 09:29 AM

And take folic acid daily!

Sore breasts are one of the most common early signs. Also swollen.

**CycloneErik** · 07-11-2012, 09:37 AM

Originally Posted by simply1

Congrats, I hope to follow your path, my wife texted me a picture of the test, and on my phone I couldn't tell what it was very well so I'm like what's that exactly, lol.

Check the test directions, too. Ours said very clearly that it didn't matter how dark the plus was. What mattered was the plus.

Sounds like you already know the answer, so congratulations!