Reasons to have children?

[DistrictCyclone]

It's a choice people have always made. It makes sense on paper. In reality, I doubt that people are ever really as ready as they thought they could be when a baby appears. It's just not actually possible.

I support people waiting until everything is perfect and ready, but I don't believe it actually works that way.

Totally agree; I realize there's no way that anyone can possibly predict the exact amount of time, money, etc. that they'll need in order to have children. However, determining that you don't have the means to raise a child is a much easier calculus. Using me as an example, there ain't no way in hell that I'd be able to afford raising a child right now, given where I live, what I earn, and what I owe in debt (than you very much, Iowa State University ).

[dmclone]

The biggest problem I see is the people that should be having kids are not (or not having as many) and the people that shouldn't are having them. In a few years you'll see half of births coming from single parent households.

[CycloneErik]

Totally agree; I realize there's no way that anyone can possibly predict the exact amount of time, money, etc. that they'll need in order to have children. However, determining that you don't have the means to raise a child is a much easier calculus. Using me as an example, there ain't no way in hell that I'd be able to afford raising a child right now, given where I live, what I earn, and what I owe in debt (than you very much, Iowa State University ).

And yet, it only takes a few minutes to change your entire equation, unless you and your wife live a completely abstinent life.

[Angie]

The biggest problem I see is the people that should be having kids are not (or not having as many) and the people that shouldn't are having them. In a few years you'll see half of births coming from single family households.

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[CRcyclone6]

Ok, that's enough, parents you know what to do, this is becoming stupid.

I'll start.

So, the other day, I was in the bathroom, my son walks in at the 'perfect' time and makes an accurate observation. I said maybe he should go tell mom. He RUNS out of the bathroom shouting at the top of his lungs: "MAMA, DADA TOOTED ON THE POTTY!"

It was SOOOO funny.

Others, let's hear 'em.

When our daughter was 3, she is 8 now, my wife took her to the doctor. The dr was asking her questions about whatever. He asked her what her mom does. "mom works at the hospital, she cooks, she cleans", etc. She told the dr all these things that her mom does everyday and around the house. The dr then asked, "what does your dad do?" Her response, "he farts alot." REALLy!!!! That's all I do!!

[3TrueFans]

And yet, it only takes a few minutes to change your entire equation, unless you and your wife live a completely abstinent life.

Even that's not 100%, I'm looking at you Jesus.

[DistrictCyclone]

And yet, it only takes a few minutes to change your entire equation, unless you and your wife live a completely abstinent life.

Don't jinx me, man.

[Erik4Cy]

Is there a new "Immortality Drug" I'm unaware of? I'll agree, I don't think every person needs to have 10 kids, but to say we don't need anymore kids is a statement that's not helping to give credibility to anything you say.

I should have rephrased - I'm not advocating or condoning everyone having ZERO kids. It'd be the end of the human race. Maybe we should just replace ourselves instead of having 2.5 or whatever it is nowadays per family or household - however the census does it. Carlin talks about that as well to just replace yourself for when you die. But global population/procreation numbers are a total other subject I won't delve into.

Erik4Cy - I get what you're saying, but why not just block those feeds on Facebook? I mean, I have a friend who is really into freaking quilting. She updates her FB profile with that crap on the daily. I either just skim past it or, if it annoys me enough, block it. And having children is a lot bigger deal in someone's life than quilting (I would hope, anyway - although this friend also has a child, but rarely posts about her. Hmm).

Anyway - I think people are asking what you DO post about? For a lot of people with children, they have family and friends spread all over the world who don't get to see their children regularly, and FB is one of the ways to share in each others' lives.

lol. I think your friend needs quiltingfanatic.com. I guess I shouldn't have made my original post so much about facebook, because I do spend time trying to ignore or block that content I don't care about on there. Because it is unavoidable in everyday life too outside of the internet.

And myself I do post to facebook but it's usually not things I broadcast to everyone: just mainly the people I know who will want to see it on their wall. And I'm not even a HUGE facebook user. I'm not "that guy" posting to everyone my political beliefs or religous beliefs I can tell you that much.

[CycloneErik]

Don't jinx me, man.

I'm just saying, we couldn't, and 10 years of practice told us that was correct, but it "changed" along the way.

Our pastor and his wife meant to stop at 3 or 4. I kidded them about it. With each child, they were more emphatic that they had "solved that problem." They're welcome, and so are you.

[Angie]

lol. I think your friend needs quiltingfanatic.com.

I seriously cannot impress upon you how much nobody cares about quilting.

[cyrevkah]

I seriously cannot impress upon you how much nobody cares about quilting.

Or at least not enough to dedicate a message board to it. I know at least three people that love quilting.

[dmclone]

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Sorry, single parent households.

[DistrictCyclone]

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He must be predicting a significant uptick in births coming from apartment complexes, communes, and dormitories.

[Cyclonz]

Life would be so empty without kids.

[CycloneYoda]

The only parenting advice I have given friends that are expecting is this: don't listen to advice, especially from family members. What worked for them WILL NOT work for you. You got the big3: hungry, wet, tired, or a combination. The rest is a damn crapshoot.