I'm just glad my parents decided to have children! :jimlad:
I wouldn’t listen to these posters about being so happy. Research shows about 50% parents are depressed having/raising kids. Kids actually don't raise happiness levels it lowers them. Here a couple of good reads on the subject.
Why Parents Hate Parenting -- New York Magazine
If parenthood sucks, why do we love it? Because we're addicted. - Slate Magazine
I would also like to point out what numerous other posters have point out they have hinted at their money problems and will probably eventually fight more with their significant other later on over the money issues. Right they are still in what I would see as a "honeymoon" stage of having a kid. Most money fights lead to a divorce.
If you said "most divorces come from fights about money," you might have something. The other way around is false.
How do people handle stress and disagreements? It seems like too many people just take the easy way out not caring if it is the best decision or the right/wrong decision.
Our children kept my wife and I together for all these year. We both agreed early on, whoever filed for divorce had to take the kids!
How can these articles say it increases stress, anxiety, and does not increase happiness when all we hear from CF and other places how wonderful children are? Either people are lying to the researchers (which I doubt) or they are putting on a happy face to the world they know - too ashamed to be honest.
I forgot to add:
If you have kids, make sure and get them vaccinated on schedule please :smile:
Parents are happier people: Parents experience greater happiness and meaning in life than nonparents, psychologists find
Just because you're happy doesn't mean you're not stressed, and vice versa. People in high-stress jobs can be happy, just as people can be who aren't stressed. There are obvious intrinsic frustrations to having children - they are rarely convenient. But each one is amazing.
My guess is that the people surveyed handle it worse than the people on CF or they just want to vent.... Though I am sure there are many stressful and sad situations being a parent. Honestly, I didn't even get to parent (yet) and I'm still giddy over the time I had. Even though I still have days when I want to cry or ask why....I am doing okay and still am a happy person.
Though I like Angie's answer a lot too.