To the OP, if you're not worried about finances and you already plan to marry her, go for it!
We dated 2 years. We were engaged for 1 year.
9 years for us, a couple of short breakups. Would have been sooner had my career path not taken a serious hit due to layoff right in the 2001 recession.
There is no right answer, sure we waited 9 years, but I was ready at 5. Actually was shopping for rings until I got that funny feeling about impending layoffs. The first 5, I think I knew she was good wife material, just wasn't sure I was ready for a wife. If that's the case, be careful, now I think I'm lucky I didn't lose her, seeing what some friends have gone thru marrying someone who was a great girlfriend in college, but not a great wife once it's time to go beyond that.
Nothing like being wishy-washy, but there's caveats in marrying too soon, and caveats in waiting too long, and none of us here can tell you the right answer. You have to know you, and you have to know her. Honestly, that's a given for getting married anyway, without regard to the right time.
there is no length of time that will be a good measurement, or a "standard" measurement. i think a good way to think about it is this: if you were both quadriplegics, how long would your conversation last? imagine if you were two glass heads on a table for the rest of your lives ala futurama. that sounds superficial but seriously, eventually (if all goes well and you both live long) all you will be left with is each other's personalities. if they match well, marry the lady. if you are bored already, probably not gonna get better.
i am single though and have let go of some keepers. so take that with a grain of salt. time frames are stupid. if you want to spend the rest of your life with her pull the trigger. if you don't, i guess you need to pull a different type of trigger.
Beware of the succubus....
dated for 4 years then got married. After we got married wife admitted she didn't see the need to have all those "fun" times now. We talked about it everything is good now.
Dated for one, engaged for one. We'd been friends for a while before that, though.
started dating in Oct. 05, engaged Feb. 10, married July 10,
met first year at ISU, wanted to graduate before being married.
I think it matters how old the two of you are. The younger you are, the longer I would wait...if your over 30 I think that makes a big difference.
I met my husband one of my first days on campus as a freshman, started dating seriously that fall and got engaged the summer inbetween my junior and senior year. He was two years older and graduated a year and a half before me. We always were apart during the summer and he was in Kansas for his his first job while I was still at ISU. We got married the summer after I graduated. Even though we married when I was right out of school, we waited about 6 years to start our family. Now 15 years later we are just finishing the having kids thing. ;)
When we were dating my husband told me he had a previous HS girlfriend who was always talking about them getting married, the future, etc. For us, marriage/proposal wasn't talked about a whole lot especially early on. We knew it would happen eventually.
We dated for 5 and were engaged for one. A lot of that has to do with our 5 dating years being one year of high school, two years of long distance, two years both of us at ISU. And we lived together the whole year we were engaged. I have literally no concept of how adult dating relationships actually work.