Rant About My Parents

**joefrog** · 08-01-2008, 02:28 PM

Lots of options for you to put this to an end.

1: Walk around naked, or at least mostly naked, around YOUR house.
2:Let your hygiene slip some. If you smell bad to yourself, you really smell bad to others.
3:Drink. A lot. Whenever they are over, crack open a brew. Even in the morning.
4:Have sex with your wife while your parents are there. Just grab her and head on in to the love chamber. Do it loud.

You need to think like a dog. Establish dominance. As long as your parents think they are in charge, they are. Steps such as the above, no matter how juvenile or ridiculous, will help you become master of your domain.

**Bubbahotep** · 08-01-2008, 02:28 PM

I hope you didn't marry a girl from an Italian family, because if you did, it's just starting, and if you didn't, things could be a lot worse.

**Psyclone** · 08-01-2008, 02:29 PM

A whole lot of thoughts. First of all you are lucky to have parents, and even luckier that you aren't halfway around the world from them.

Second, they are probably right and just trying to help and you are being stubborn. I can relate to the stubborn part as the girlfriend makes plenty of suggestions that I am just not ready to act on.

Third, it's really your life so tell them you appreciate their intentions to help, but you'd rather they back off and let you make these types of decisions based on your priorities.

If it were me, boy could I make use of some help, especially in the landscaping decisions. I have a very big yard and there is no end to the improvements that I can dream up. The problem is that I lack the time and am really not very good at this kind of stuff. It takes me forever to plan a project out and do all the research to make it perfect. So improvements around the household come very slow for me.

**bos** · 08-01-2008, 02:29 PM

Originally Posted by Bubbahotep

I hope you didn't marry a girl from an Italian family, because if you did, it's just starting, and if you didn't, things could be a lot worse.

Nah, she's mutt. We should be good. Her mother is passive agressive, I can handle those. Its the dominant Greek mothers I have no control over.

**cmoneyr** · 08-01-2008, 02:31 PM

Eh, just tell 'em to back off, that's what parents do, they never stop parenting. But just remind them that you're a big boy now, I'll leave the specifics of how to show that to them up to you...

**isuarch80** · 08-01-2008, 02:32 PM

Originally Posted by cardinal&gold

If you move too far away, like Texas, then you'll just get inundated with little barbs of guilt that you live so far away now and how badly all your family misses you.

Agreed - and my wife just told her parents that we're not coming back for christmas this year... yeah, her mom started making her feel like "she didn't care that we weren't coming back", yada, yada...

**Angie** · 08-01-2008, 02:32 PM

I go into shut-down mode when my parents **** me off. Just don't respond to their calls, etc. for a few days, and they'll realize that they need to give you space. Passive-aggressiveness works wonders.

**bos** · 08-01-2008, 02:34 PM

[quote=Psyclone;564693]A whole lot of thoughts. First of all you are lucky to have parents, and even luckier that you aren't halfway around the world from them. You are right. I am lucky and thankful to have two loving parents. Wont cheat em on that.

Second, they are probably right and just trying to help and you are being stubborn. I can relate to the stubborn part as the girlfriend makes plenty of suggestions that I am just not ready to act on. This I cant agree on. This tree is the tip of the iceberg with things they force upon us. I can be stubborn, I wont deny that, but this doesnt count.

Third, it's really your life so tell them you appreciate their intentions to help, but you'd rather they back off and let you make these types of decisions based on your priorities. I will try this. Seems like a more positive approach than the call n yell idea. =) Thank you for your insight.

**isuno1fan** · 08-01-2008, 02:34 PM

Originally Posted by bostinelosd

Ever since we moved back to Sioux City, my parents and my inlaws have basically had us under the microscope. Everything we do, say, etc is questioned or controlled. My parents are the worst about it. They do this with money, child raising, yard and house, etc. The newest thing is today I find out from my wife that my mother has hired a tree service to remove the huge tree from our backyard because she feels it will fall on the house. This tree is huge and old, but its not dead. It has dropped large branches recently, but I think that can be remedied by having it trimmed up since it pretty much hasnt been done in years I suspect. I just know this is going to cause me more work with landscaping and the yard getting full sun when its not used to it. The fact though is that they have no right to do this on my property without my say so. My mom went around me.

Whew, I just needed to get this out there and off my chest.

Does anyone else have some controlling parents that have found a way of stopping them without poison tablets in their lemonade?

Can't be chicken**** to tell them to mind their own business for fear of hurting their feelings. I do it all the time to my parents (15 min away) and feel no remorse over it.

I still get invited to Christmas too.

**SuperCy** · 08-01-2008, 02:35 PM

I just told my dad last weekend that there's a good chance we're moving to the Pittsburgh area. My wife is from that area is is up for a job w/ a hefty raise. That didn't seem to matter. It sucked telling him though. We've always been pretty close. I know he hopes she doesn't get the job.

Now, I just have to tell my mom. I don't think dad will take the bullett for me there.

**bos** · 08-01-2008, 02:37 PM

Originally Posted by SuperCy

I just told my dad last weekend that there's a good chance we're moving to the Pittsburgh area. My wife is from that area is is up for a job w/ a hefty raise. That didn't seem to matter. It sucked telling him though. We've always been pretty close. I know he hopes she doesn't get the job.

Now, I just have to tell my mom. I don't think dad will take the bullett for me there.

Oh i made the mistake once of telling my parents that I didnt want to live here forever and there are other places I would like to live and work. My mom about set fire to my face. I think my dad understands, because he wants me to live my dreams since he really didnt get to. My mother started the guilt thing.

**SuperCy** · 08-01-2008, 02:38 PM

Originally Posted by bostinelosd

Oh i made the mistake once of telling my parents that I didnt want to live here forever and there are other places I would like to live and work. My mom about set fire to my face. I think my dad understands, because he wants me to live my dreams since he really didnt get to. My mother started the guilt thing.

I almost moved to Seattle about 10 years ago. Really the only difference now is that I'm married and there's always the possibility of grandkids.

**ISUFan22** · 08-01-2008, 02:40 PM

My mom is somewhat like this, has never been anything different and won't. She meddles, she thinks all should be done her way and when they don't - will completely cause issues.

My wife is trying to plan a baby show for my sister-in-law. Mom has specific ideas for it that no one is interested in - not going down a happy road so far.

**isuno1fan** · 08-01-2008, 02:41 PM

Originally Posted by bostinelosd

Oh i made the mistake once of telling my parents that I didnt want to live here forever and there are other places I would like to live and work. My mom about set fire to my face. I think my dad understands, because he wants me to live my dreams since he really didnt get to. My mother started the guilt thing.

What is the problem with telling your mother to "back off"? Seems you are too worried about hurting your mom's feelings.

**BryceC** · 08-01-2008, 02:42 PM

My parents sold their house in Iowa and now travel the countryside as nomads. Having them around is nice when they come to visit but I'm very happy that they have given me plenty of room to make my own life for myself. I don't know if I've ever had a conversation about money, my house, or anything like that. I've sought advice for yard stuff because I'm pretty ignorant when it comes to that.

My parents have left me to manage my domain and my marriage as I see fit and continue to make my own mistakes. For that I am eternally grateful and I have thanked them for it.