Valedictorian proposes to boyfriend during graduation speech

[Cyballz]

I found this to be an incredibly romantic gesture on her part. Why all the hate? Simple jealousy that you guys just grunted out a proposal while wearing jeans and a football jersey?

These two obviously have a special bond and it is something we should all respect and work to obtain. I salute them. Instead of knocking them, maybe a few of you should rent some movies this weekend and sit on the couch with your wife and hold hands. I suggeset the following movies:

The English Patient
The Truth About Cats and Dogs
You've Got Mail
Sleepless in Seattle
Pretty Woman (I DARE you to try and keep a dry eye when Richard Gere climbs the balcony at the end of the movie)
And my ALL TIME FAVORITE MOVIE--Love Affair (remake of An Affair to Remember)


You men are welcome.

I wouldn't be able to get through those movies in a weekend - just thinking about it makes me want to get one of these:

[dosry5]

Hugs are for daddy issues.

I'll spew hate all I want, and you'll like it.


Actually no problems here, just correcting incorrect info on me, and laughing at the irony. Nothing's better than someone not adding to the discussion, and telling someone how they ought to act while being wrong.

Leave the hawkeye posters out of this discussion.....

[motorCYcle]

I just don't see it that way. All valedictorians are supposed to also inspire and reflect on their time at the school. These relationships were part of the time at the school and I guess it can be done in a very integrated way and it would be even more impressive. i.e. they could relate it back to taking the school and relationships with you. Correct me if I'm wrong, but the school even okayed it beforehand in the video's case, and the other guy, I can only speculate, you always try to get/keep the attention of the crowd with an opening joke, attention getter and often these are not completely relevant. To me its just speech 101 and a non issue. If that was all s/he did, then I can see the argument.

In my mind these relationships are part of that, and if they earned the right, so much that the school gives them a microphone to share their experience, then they get to chose what experiences they talk about.

Alright, this is how I see it: What would you think if the best man (valedictorian) proposed to the maid of honor (actually the other way around in this case) in his/her toast (graduation speech)? The best man/maid of honor should be recognized, but they should not overshadow the wedding (graduation) by their own proposal. Of course it won't ruin the entire "wedding", but that isn't the point.
The valedictorian is a necessary part of graduation, but not the main attraction.

[dosry5]

Alright, this is how I see it: What would you think if the best man (valedictorian) proposed to the maid of honor (actually the other way around in this case) in his/her toast (graduation speech)? The best man/maid of honor should be recognized, but they should not overshadow the wedding (graduation) by their own proposal. Of course it won't ruin the entire "wedding", but that isn't the point.
The valedictorian is a necessary part of graduation, but not the main attraction.

Apples and oranges. The wedding is about 2 people getting married. A college graduation ceremony is about the entire class and life in college and experiences and the future.

[motorCYcle]

Apples and oranges. The wedding is about 2 people getting married. A college graduation ceremony is about the entire class and life in college and experiences and the future.

ok, even if you don't agree with my analogy, like I said:
valedictorians are necessary and should be recognized, but not what everyone comes for

[CarolinaCy]

Actually A TON of people care. Why do you think facebook is so huge?! People like to keep in touch and know what others are doing. What is wrong with sharing your happiest moments with others? Why does it bother you?

But people don't just share their happiest moments, or their saddest, they feel the need to share EVERY moment of their waking lives. 99.9% of people in the world don't give two ***** about what I just ate for lunch, so I don't tell them about it.

Facebook and Twitter are huge because people love to talk about themselves, whether they have anything interesting to say or not. They are vehicles for people to bring attention to themselves, and there are lots of people who need lots and lots of attention apparently.

[CarolinaCy]

But you're on an internet message board posting your opinion right now. Don't you see the irony?

There's no irony because it's not the same thing. A thread on a message board is an invitation for people to respond with their opinions. Facebook, Twitter, etc. exist for people to provide unsolicited "news" of their lives, no matter how trivial and meaningless that "news" might be.

I'm not posting my opinion in order to draw attention to myself, I'm merely trying to add some thoughts to an open discussion.

[mikeiastat]

Apples and oranges. The wedding is about 2 people getting married. A college graduation ceremony is about the entire class and life in college and experiences and the future.

I agree with this completely, and I didn't see the proposal as overshadowing the graduation ceremony. It was five minutes. I still bet the celebration after throwing the caps was even louder, but Judging from the crowd reaction in the video, I don't think it did too much damage to the ceremony. Everyone enjoyed it as they care about "Mrs. and Mr. whatever-school" as classmates that found love in that graduating class. Much more relevant than doing that during the best man speach, but if the best man cleared it with the couple it could be a special thing.

For the record. I proposed at a wedding reception. It was New Years, and I was going to do it after, but when I shared that info with the bride/ wife's friend since gradeschool/roommate, she encouraged me to go big. She later staged some fun and stopped the dancing and handed me the mic.

[FarminCy]

People actually go to their grad ceremonies? I guarantee I would have spaced off the entire time if i had gone and wouldn't have remembered anything.

I was shocked as well to see that people actually participated in those things. Man my parents were ****** when I said i wasn't walking at graduation. No way was I ruining my last weekend of college with a stupid ceremony. A group of us got hammered all weekend and went to graduation parties if we remembered but mainly drank like you should when the real world is staring you in the face and mourning the end of a 5 year journey.

[Rolling Clones]

[ame="http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pIY7KGsNvoM"]YouTube - Real Men of Genius ? Mr. Stadium Scoreboard Marriage Proposal Guy[/ame]

[CycloneErik]

Seriously--do people usually talk about the school in those speeches? From what I remember it's pretty much just platitudes about the future, flowery hope and change and making a difference in the world. I guess what I'm getting at is this--it's a speech. You graduated, that's the big deal. If the speech at the ceremony can ruin your 4 years (7 if you're an Iowa grad), then you have bigger problems.

You've been to a graduation? As a graduate?

Color me surprised.

[CYcoFan]

I found this to be an incredibly romantic gesture on her part. Why all the hate? Simple jealousy that you guys just grunted out a proposal while wearing jeans and a football jersey?

These two obviously have a special bond and it is something we should all respect and work to obtain. I salute them. Instead of knocking them, maybe a few of you should rent some movies this weekend and sit on the couch with your wife and hold hands. I suggeset the following movies:

The English Patient
The Truth About Cats and Dogs
You've Got Mail
Sleepless in Seattle
Pretty Woman (I DARE you to try and keep a dry eye when Richard Gere climbs the balcony at the end of the movie)
And my ALL TIME FAVORITE MOVIE--Love Affair (remake of An Affair to Remember)


You men are welcome.

I am probably a little late adding my 2 cents. But in most of those movies the guy proposes/ pursues the girl if I am not mistaken.


I like a romanic comedy/ Drama-dy too but I tend to lean towards:
High Fidelity
Serendipity
Chaos Theory
Definately Maybe
Knocked Up
Juno
Ugly Truth

There are others but that is a good sampling