Death

[AltoonaFish]

This is going to sound morbid to some , but maybe I’m not the only crazy person here.

How often do you people think about death/dying? Daily, weekly, occasionally?

It doesn’t even have to be offing yourself, just death in general.

I’ve been to a lot of therapy and have good and bad days, but I don’t think I’ve gone a day since I was in junior high that I haven’t thought about dying. It might be how am I going to die, what if I did this , why can’t some tragedy or health issue just happen to me instead of the good people out there?

For any others that may have maybe dealt with this exhausting issues, what did you do to ease the mind or do you just keep going on with it?

I’m exhausted and I’m tired and nothing I’ve tried over the last 25 years has worked, whether it be therapy, medications, drugs, sobriety etc.

Sorry to bring this board down.

 

[CyValley2]

This is going to sound morbid to some , but maybe I’m not the only crazy person here.

How often do you people think about death/dying? Daily, weekly, occasionally?

It doesn’t even have to be offing yourself, just death in general.

I’ve been to a lot of therapy and have good and bad days, but I don’t think I’ve gone a day since I was in junior high that I haven’t thought about dying. It might be how am I going to die, what if I did this , why can’t some tragedy or health issue just happen to me instead of the good people out there?

For any others that may have maybe dealt with this exhausting issues, what did you do to ease the mind or do you just keep going on with it?

I’m exhausted and I’m tired and nothing I’ve tried over the last 25 years has worked, whether it be therapy, medications, drugs, sobriety etc.

Sorry to bring this board down.

IMO, you are not bringing this board down because can there be a more basic question about who we are, what is our meaning, and what will happen to us when considering our universe and what is our understanding of it?

I am certain my response is different than yours to the same question. You are not separated in any way from the rest of us though. I am guessing your tussle with these great questions is different because among 3.8 billion hominds today who among us possesses the ultimate answer? Not you. Not me. Not anyone.

We are out there, humans who ask the questions that bedevil you. Personally, I am curious about where a conversation here with you, and me, and others might go.

Do not despair. That is the only advice I can give to you.

 

[coolerifyoudid]

It's a fascinating subject, honestly. People and animals handle it so differently. I don't generally think about it unless forced to by outside circumstances, but it's a topic I think many people shy away from because they fear talking about it.

I'm not qualified to give advice on the subject pertaining to your personal connection to it, but if it feels like death is taking control of your life, please consider seeing a different professional or talk to others that may share your same situation. I've seen depression manifest itself in many ways and don't want to see anyone else go through it if they can find a way out.

 

[3TrueFans]

Ive thought about it in the sense that it’s crazy that in an instant your experience is just over and everyone moves on without you.

Almost never in terms of my own death though, that’s a problem for future me.

 

[FriendlySpartan]

This is going to sound morbid to some , but maybe I’m not the only crazy person here.

How often do you people think about death/dying? Daily, weekly, occasionally?

It doesn’t even have to be offing yourself, just death in general.

I’ve been to a lot of therapy and have good and bad days, but I don’t think I’ve gone a day since I was in junior high that I haven’t thought about dying. It might be how am I going to die, what if I did this , why can’t some tragedy or health issue just happen to me instead of the good people out there?

For any others that may have maybe dealt with this exhausting issues, what did you do to ease the mind or do you just keep going on with it?

I’m exhausted and I’m tired and nothing I’ve tried over the last 25 years has worked, whether it be therapy, medications, drugs, sobriety etc.

Sorry to bring this board down.

I think you might be talking about a couple different things.

It’s very common for people as they get older or who are around people who have passed to contemplate about death. What if anything comes next, how will I be remembered, what am I leaving behind or haven’t accomplished. Regrets and joys paths not taken. It’s a natural part of the process.

However wishing harm to yourself or having suicidal ideations is much more unusual. I’m glad you have gotten help in the past and hope you continue to try to find something that works. Super easy to get discouraged but if you’re feeling down it’s always good to talk to someone.

I have kinda a weird relationship with death as it’s not something when I am thinking about the person I died but rather the people they left behind. As long as the person wasn’t scared or in pain death can be a such a simple process that it’s almost jarring.

 

[CycloneRulzzz]

This is going to sound morbid to some , but maybe I’m not the only crazy person here.

How often do you people think about death/dying? Daily, weekly, occasionally?

It doesn’t even have to be offing yourself, just death in general.

I’ve been to a lot of therapy and have good and bad days, but I don’t think I’ve gone a day since I was in junior high that I haven’t thought about dying. It might be how am I going to die, what if I did this , why can’t some tragedy or health issue just happen to me instead of the good people out there?

For any others that may have maybe dealt with this exhausting issues, what did you do to ease the mind or do you just keep going on with it?

I’m exhausted and I’m tired and nothing I’ve tried over the last 25 years has worked, whether it be therapy, medications, drugs, sobriety etc.

Sorry to bring this board down.

I can definitely relate with this in bold. I often think during tragedies that I'd give anything to trade places because I know many people lost in these events would have done alot more for society than myself.

 

[simply1]

I think about this guy a lot, it’s not particularly comforting.

 

[CyValley2]

I hope you'll pardon me for this if you disapprove. I'm such a fan of the authors, Kubrick and Clarke, the thinkers behind this who gave creative thought to who we are. They, of course, did not know our future. But, they gave us a reason to consider what it might be. The creative human mind at wo

 

[ClonesTwenty1]

Death probably crossed my mind once daily. But I also have terrible anxiety disorder.

 

[CyValley2]

Death probably crossed my mind once daily. But I also have terrible anxiety disorder.

Are you willing to talk about it? It might be terrible for you, because we are not prefessionals.

Yet, although we don't know ****,

 

[NorthCyd]

I just assume most people think about death a lot, even though I don't think my own thoughts on it have evolved in quite a while. It's the great unknown and in a lot of ways defines our very existence. Death gives our life meaning. As I have gotten older I don't take much for granted any more. I know anyone in my life can be taken from me at any time, and that goes for my own life. I guess it has made me appreciate what I have when I have it much more. I'm not sure what this existence is all about, but I'm going to enjoy it as much as I can while I have it.

 

[CycloneRulzzz]

I just assume most people think about death a lot, even though I don't think my own thoughts on it have evolved in quite a while. It's the great unknown and in a lot of ways defines our very existence. Death gives our life meaning. As I have gotten older I don't take much for granted any more. I know anyone in my life can be taken from me at any time, and that goes for my own life. I guess it has made me appreciate what I have when I have it much more. I'm not sure what this existence is all about, but I'm going to enjoy it as much as I can while I have it.

Well said and as I've gotten older the words above help me to brush off things like my favorite teams losing. It sucks but in the grand scheme there are things to really to be upset over. It just a sporting event.

 

[Farnsworth]

I have doctors told I should have guarantee died three times. The last time was when I had a stroke right before my 40th birthday. They thought I wouldn't get to close to Iowa City even through the night. The other twice situations was even worse.

I also have a severe anxiety disorder (but social).

That said, I never think about death, not even a second. Ever. Probably while my health is so great. (Well physically is amazed, mentally, my brain, not so much now as I'm left with "disability" with Aphasia).

 

[TitanClone]

Never. It frankly doesn't scare me. I hated when my grandpa died but he was 85 and had battled multiple types of cancers and kidney issues for over 20 years so it wasn't a shock. I hope to live to 100, but whatever happens happens

That said be well, the very minor anxiety I've dealt with has been more or less cured by weed. Drink delta delivers to Iowa, or a quick drive to Missouri.

Edit: I should add I don't have kids, that would change my perspective

 

[Farnsworth]

Never. It frankly doesn't scare me. I hated when my grandpa died but he was 85 and had battled multiple types of cancers and kidney issues for over 20 years so it wasn't a shock. I hope to live to 100, but whatever happens happens

I assume to live to 100 years old, at least, but I never really think about it.

If I told a cancer diagnosis that looks bad, my reaction would thinking "hmm, well that sucks, I'll figure it out (whatever happens happens), anywho what's going on for dinner."


Edit: Same.... I should add I don't have kids, that would change my perspective.

Edit 2: at 100 year old I'd thinking about quality of life way before just going dieing. Good physical health such as walking yourself or have activities, and having a 'with it' your mental process. If I was bed ridden and with dementia, I don't care of 'living' to 100. Please pull the plug.

 

[TitanClone]

I assume to live to 100 years old, at least, but I never really think about it.

If I told a cancer diagnosis that looks bad, my reaction would thinking "hmm, well that sucks, I'll figure it out (whatever happens happens), anywho what's going on for dinner."


Edit: Same.... I should add I don't have kids, that would change my perspective.

Edit 2: at 100 year old I'd thinking about quality of life way before just going dieing. Good physical health such as walking yourself or have activities, and having a 'with it' your mental process. If I was bed ridden and with dementia, I don't care of 'living' to 100. Please pull the plug.

My 3 living grandparents are all 85+. Had a great grandma live to 99 and her sister lived to 95. Hoping I don't have the mail man's genes. I want to die with essentially nothing in the bank after living a full life. I guess that goes against not thinking about death but whatever

 

[mkadl]

My 3 living grandparents are all 85+. Had a great grandma live to 99 and her sister lived to 95. Hoping I don't have the mail man's genes. I want to die with essentially nothing in the bank after living a full life. I guess that goes against not thinking about death but whatever

I think about it more since I recently retired, and I understand better my parents and grandparents attitudes when my family visited them. I fought cancer 8 years ago and found out that my wife doesn't understand my shoulder shrugging attitude towards death. I can do things I am told to do to be healthier and safer and still accept that death is immenent. We just don't know.

 

[Pope]

I take great comfort in reading about (or listening to) persons who have literally died and then come back to life. Researchers like Dr. Jeffrey Long have interviewed thousands of these individuals and revealed their experiences are so remarkably similar across all age groups, religions, and cultures that they must be real.

This research very strongly suggests that our conscience (i.e., our soul) survives death and continues on into another realm which is more 'real' than our existence here on earth. This realm is so beautiful and so loving that these near death experiencers struggle to find words adequate enough to describe it.

What is really comforting to me is the vast majority of these near death experiencers suddenly lose all fear of death.

I am fascinated listening to these survivors describe their experiences. While I still fear the actual dying process, I don't fear death nearly as much as I used to. For those who struggle with an overwhelming fear of death, I encourage you to listen to their stories.

 

[Cyclonepride]

Not all that often anymore, honestly. My thoughts on it have kind of evolved as I've gotten older. I mentioned in another thread that time seems to speed up as you get older and that is 100% true, but coming to a greater understanding on how fleeting time is has led me to the realization that even if I lived another 50 years or just one more day, when the time came, it would never have been enough. For whatever reason, that thought provides me comfort.

 

[Die4Cy]

I have family that needs me, so i have a responsibility to them to take care of myself and make my time with them count. I am aware none of us are getting out of here alive, but I don't dwell on that, really. I've had to be present for the death of several loved ones and know it isn't easy work for anyone, but it is important to be there for them. If you have that knowledge and time at the end, how that goes is reflected by the life you've lived up to that point. Being a faithful Catholic I know there's more to life than just what we experience here. That's not for everyone, but it provides some daily perspective for me both on how to live and how to approach my own end.