Still working on finding mine. Got a BS and MS in Civil Engineering from ISU. Started work for one of the biggest construction companies in America. Loved the work, saw some of the biggest construction projects around, traveled to edges of the continent, etc, etc.
Got tired of that when kids came along, so decided to switch to a regional engineering firm for more stability. Was there 2 months before I realized it wasn't going to work. Sitting in a cube all day just drove me nuts.
After 10 months at that job, I was recruited away by another big contractor and took it just to get out. This new job was in business development, so didn't really use my degrees at all, just my general knowledge of the construction world. Was a good gig, but not challenging at all. Job was $100k+ and only required about 6 hours of real work each week. I couldn't handle that amount of boredom (more cubicles, too). So, after about 14 months there, I took another gig with my current company.
Still working for a contractor, but much smaller than any other company I've worked at. Work is still in business development and proposals. I really loved it at first, helped win some big/key projects for my company so I'm viewed very favorably. Been here 3 years, but I've reached the point of boredom again and started looking. Recently accepted a position with a similar size company that will take me back to my engineering roots. Job is 100% WFH, but with travel a few days every other week. Will be nice to get back into the field, as well. In 1-2 years, they expect me to be running a whole region of the country for them, so much more leadership in that role.
As you can see, I've gone toward and away from my degrees, but always stayed in the same industry (civil engineering/construction). However, I've learned quite a bit about myself: 1) I have to stay busy all the time at work, I cannot stand sitting idle and watching the day crawl by, 2) I have to feel like my work is important and valued by my boss/company, I cannot handle doing menial tasks, even if I'm paid well to do it, and 3) I have to have something I'm working toward, whether that's a promotion, a project goal, or a bonus, I have to have a longer term goal I'm striving toward or a I tend to spin my wheels.
My advice:
- There idea of a "dream job" is very rare. Most people just find a job that is good enough 80% of the time to allow you to put up with the 20% of BS.
- You'll never really know if you will like some jobs until you try them. Finding your way is about iterating. Try something, if it doesn't work, then shift gears, etc, etc. You can't be a job hopper, but trying a job for a few years then realizing it's not for you is totally normal.
- Seek out mentors to help in your decision making. In each of my job switches, I've reached out to multiple mentors of mine (this includes friends, not just old dudes) to help me see things from multiple perspectives.
Good luck. PM me if you want to dive deeper.