Monday OT - These are my confessions.
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For Christmas, I bought my wife a pair of expensive Yoga pants she really wanted. She tried them on, loved them, and she looked REALLY good in them. I confess, I was afraid She was going to be one of those 36 year olds dressing like a 26 year old to make herself feel younger again. I'm not sure what is going on, but I think I am sending myself into a midlife crisis, because it is I who now feels younger than I am.
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We've learned to not get too upset about returning anything. Try to be diplomatic (You're secretly a kind person. I'm sure you guys were.) but don't be scared to ask for the gift receipt. It's just "stuff" (things get trickier once grandkids are involved). Both you and the in-laws will move on.
Understood. That is like listening to her when she says to "Make this one a little weak."
these kinda go together - in the past, we've always done the first. Annoying, but return it if we want to and appreciate the attempt and gesture. Kindly discourage from clothes or whatever it was when asked for suggestions the next year. I always make sure to include gift receipts to people whenever possible. I'd much rather they have what they wanted vs worrying about if I'm upset that they didn't like what I picked.
Over the summer they generously gave us a couple things DH had mentioned when they asked about things we were buying when we moved. (in the context of wife and I are discussing these, not a "here are things to buy us" way). Both things are not quite right for us so we are like we gotta be firm at holidays and head off any attempts at getting things we don't want picked out for us. Hence they very clear "do not get us a vacuum" when it was brought up. Which then like Linden alludes to, makes me feel like hey, we said no, you did it anyway, so don't try and make us feel guilty.
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Sounds like it is time to end the gift exchange between adults. Families buy gifts for the kids and grandparents but don't for siblings and spouses. It is much better for us that way.
After everything that happened at Thanksgiving, I have no urge to ever host again.
got the sibling one ended but the parent to adult child and vice versa is like Keith Richards. It will never die. Would be fine with just gifts for the kiddos. Though we could probably back down on the amount. I've asked DH if it'll be a problem should we put a cap on how many our future kids can be given. I'm not making multiple trips just for toys.
Wife and I can't agree on a lot of decisions on our house (paint, furniture, etc.). I've done a fairly good job of compromising and letting her get her way when I can tell she really wants something. Then we get to some things where I have a specific preference and I'm getting zero compromise on her part. Really, really annoying.
I was going to post this. I'll post this instead.
"Pick your battles. And expect to lose all of them."
Tell her that she's not getting any until she compromises. It's guaranteed to work.
