I know this might sound weird, but there is something quite awesome looking in your kid's room and watching them peacefully sleep.
Serious question: Are kids worth it?
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In my early 30s, we have 2 and neither are in school yet. The 8 months to a year before they crawl/walk you literally have no other life besides taking care of them. Very hard to get anything done if you have hobbies or projects around the house. Your sex life will be ruined. Every time you think you have them sleeping through the night that first year or so, another tooth will come in or they will get sick and be up all night. My son basically cried for 3 months straight after he was born and my wife would cry almost every day over it. We pay enough in daycare I could buy a nice second house somewhere warm.
It’s a commitment and one that obviously shouldn’t be taken lightly, but the very first time one of them runs up to you for a hug or crawls up on your lap and snuggles in for a nap you forget any of the tough stuff ever happened. Hugely rewarding and inwoukd do it all over again in a heartbeat.
It’s a commitment and one that obviously shouldn’t be taken lightly, but the very first time one of them runs up to you for a hug or crawls up on your lap and snuggles in for a nap you forget any of the tough stuff ever happened. Hugely rewarding and inwoukd do it all over again in a heartbeat.
We had three kids in five years. Now I have three in high school.
The most meaningful thing in my life is watching my kids become who they are.
They're expensive and they'll drive you nuts and fill your life with worry and it will be the best thing that ever happened to you.
The most meaningful thing in my life is watching my kids become who they are.
They're expensive and they'll drive you nuts and fill your life with worry and it will be the best thing that ever happened to you.
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The love you feel for your kids is like none other. Both my kids are in their 20’s and are awesome people, but raising kids is very hard. Much harder than you realize as a kid. Being a Dad is my proudest accomplishment.
My wife and I chose not to have children. Our reasons were simple. One, we both felt if we couldn't offer the same or better life for our children that we were given, we wouldn't feel good about having them. In this world, the fiscal responsibility is so much more than our parents were burdened with. Furthermore, as we continue to build our debt and bad habits (as humans), the more the burden falls on future generations. I realize this is rather pessimistic, but the facts bare it out. The cost of living is so much more than what we grew up with. And, now most families require dual income to support the lifestyles they desire. That, in our opinion, deflects the responsibility of child raising to hired help, whether it be nannies, private schools, or child care. We didn't feel right about that. Now, let me make one thing very clear; in no way do I condemn those who have children or want to have children. That, I'm sure is an overwhelming desire and one which has been paid back in more love than anyone could imagine. I'm just saying the responsibilities of having a child today are so much more demanding than they were for me.
Either way we wish the very best for you.
Either way we wish the very best for you.
Just saw a clip of a guy who took his toddler into the elephant area at the San Diego Zoo and almost got them both trampled by one.
Exhibit A.
My favorite parenting saying ever : when you have the third kid you have to switch from man-to-man to zone defense (I don’t have three kids).
As cyclone fans it’s also important that we out breed Hawkeye nation, so remember that this is ultimately bigger than you.
Think of the average Hawk fan.
Now think of the people you see and think they "shouldn't" be having kids.
Tall mountain to climb
To me and my wife what's the point of life without having kids? We have 3 and wish we had more. Honestly our kids give and have given us more joy and pleasure, it's unreal. We can't imagine not having a family/kids especially around holidays. Watching them grow up play sports etc etc. great times.
Bingo. I am in my 30's, but I feel like I am in my 20's due to how late of a start I got after high school (Took 5 years off). Combine that with the time in college itself, I think you can see why I feel like that. Same boat as you.
I decided a long time ago I do not want children, due to the above. Now granted, I will admit my life and time completely passing me by is completely my own fault, but I'm finally ready to start living the life I have always wanted to live either later this year or early next year. Having children would just push that back even further.
Yeah, multiple studies have shown people without kids are happier. That's why I have four of them. Lol!
I figured when you get down to it the ultimate goal of life is to spread and procreate, so you're kind of missing out on the essence of life if you don't take part in that.
I know a lot of people have this covered, but:
I don't think everyone needs to have kids. If you don't have a strong desire, and like your independence, then wait on it. Several of our best friends made that choice. And you know what? The world is overpopulated, and if you aren't passionate about it, it's a responsible decision.
However - being a mom is literally the best thing that's ever happened in my entire life.
I don't think everyone needs to have kids. If you don't have a strong desire, and like your independence, then wait on it. Several of our best friends made that choice. And you know what? The world is overpopulated, and if you aren't passionate about it, it's a responsible decision.
However - being a mom is literally the best thing that's ever happened in my entire life.
