First Date

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Yeah, I don’t get the no coffee date/ice cream date/no date to get drinks; I’ve never really had a problem when suggesting those types of dates.

The nice thing about them is that if there isn’t chemistry you can end them relatively quickly. If you have a dinner date and the chemistry isn’t good/it isn’t going well, you have to get through dinner

Yeah, that was my strategy with going to a bar. If things aren’t working, you can end it quickly.
 

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I agree with the list on this one.

How can I impress her with my charm, quick wit, and full throttle machismo if we're just sitting in a dark room?

I'm not cutting a hole in the popcorn bucket either, dirtbags.
My first ever high school date was a movie. "Major League". Great movie. Nice girl too, dairy farmer. Huge tracts 'o land.

Unfortunately, and unbeknownst to me, my buddies went to the exact same showing, and were about 3 rows ahead of us. Once I realized they were there, we moved back several more rows. They eventually ID'd us anyway and gave me grief.
 

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Went to a bowling alley/arcade on my first date. We both seemed to enjoy it. It's something you can do at your own pace, and the constant movement helps avoid awkward pauses and takes pressure off of the conversation.

When she was bowling, it was a great way to evaluate her assets too if you know what I mean.

I can't be convinced that bowling isn't the ideal first date.
 
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I can get behind some of the things on the list, but what is wrong with a coffee date? Feels like a quick, cheap, and low pressure way to figure out if you have any chemistry with another person?
It's a no-brainer to me if its someone you met online. Public place, low pressure, easy to bail, but can also move somewhere else if things are working.

Maybe a little soft for a "date" if its someone you know already from work, church, friends etc.
 
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We grabbed sushi, but what I'll remember is my future MIL made a multiple choice "test" to help me get a better feel for my future wife. Questions like sport(s) she played as a child mixed in with some light-hearted embarrassing stories from her youth. I'm sure it made my wife highly uncomfortable, but it made me fall for her (and her family) even more.

I need a lot more details on this. How did you obtain this test? Did she bring it and give it to you? Did you know her MIL already? Did you administer the test on the date? Who was reading the questions, you or her?
 

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Believe it or not, my wife and I met on match.com. Little side tidbit: my first job out of college was for an upscale singles magazine which turned into a dating service to which I wrote the program to match people. To this day, I believe the algorithm is still unmatched. It was so good, it ran the company out of business cause they couldn't feed the list faster than my program was matching people. That aside, we decided to 'cut to the chase' and meet right away. I walked into the coffee shop (cause that's the right way to first meet someone in person that you met online) and the first girl I saw was way too cute and had different colored hair. So, I walked in to the center and started panning around. You know how it can be trying to identify someone from a photo. I stood there for about 10 seconds when I heard my name called out from behind. It was her. We got married within 6 months. That was 20 years ago. Both being 45 at the time and neither ever married prior, it seemed to be in the cards. So, I guess the answer to the question is match.com and Cafe del Soul in San Rafael, CA.
 

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I can get behind some of the things on the list, but what is wrong with a coffee date? Feels like a quick, cheap, and low pressure way to figure out if you have any chemistry with another person?
Yeah lots of my first dates were coffee or a drink or something. Low pressure and get to know the person and see if something is there. I'm not setting up elaborate 1st dates for all the people I've gone on dates with. Now if it progressed beyond 1 then #2 I'd try and plan something more adventurous/fun. Plus that's a lot easier when you actually know more about someone.
 

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I knew my wife from classes and school, but we went to Dublin Bay for our first. This has been nearly 20 years ago now!

The more I read about these things on the internet, the more I feel I should stop and get flowers on the way home. No way I’d want to be dating in this internet/app world right now. :confused:
 
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Met my wife on match.com. Our first date was in Omaha, except the directions she gave took me to a gas station in Council Bluffs, the one with bars over the windows and the little slot to slide the money through. I was trying to use my phone for better directions (pre smartphones) She kept calling to see where I was and when I didn't answer (because I was using my phone) she got impatient and thought I stood her up. Only thing that's changed is that now the screen in the car tells you where to turn. She is just as impatient and bad at directions.
 

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I knew my wife from classes and school, but we went to Dublin Bay for our first. This has been nearly 20 years ago now!

The more I read about these things on the internet, the more I feel I should stop and get flowers on the way home. No way I’d want to be dating in this internet/app world right now. :confused:
I had this same thought!
 

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Not my wife but a story. Went on a double date with a buddy. We managed to both be with girls/women (I was a HS senior) with the same name so when together we had to call them by their last names.

Went to the movies. They wanted Pretty woman (I said I don’t care) and the other guy wanted Spaced Invaders, he was adamant about it, I finally got him to cave when I could tell things were getting rocky.

Got through the movie (while he B’d the whole time about the movie)and headed home. They started arguing and my date asked to turn up the radio to try to kill it. Well, I heard him call her a B and that pretty much killed the conversation but now my date and I started laughing.

It was a horrible date.
 
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