As long as it doesn’t affect me, I would let it go. The second I would have to find someone to get their packages to them (on vacation or whatever) I’m out. They can figure out those logistics.
Friday OT - Am I the A-Hole?
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Yup. You're crazy because it is not worth getting your wife pissed over this. It's her problem to solve and seems mostly her inconvenience. You are, of course, correct in that almost everyone will deliver to their home address.
And you are also crazy being up and posting at 5ish in the AM.
Have you thought about asking them if it would be okay to ship something to their address, say a cheap item, to see if it could be done? Maybe pose it as a way to show maybe they are right rather than a means to should you are right? "Hey, maybe you guys are right. Can I ship something to you to see if maybe I really am wrong on this?"
It did give me a flashback to my childhood. Parents had mail delivered to home and also had a P.O. Box 38 in the local town for most of my dad's biz mail. It was a mixed bag as to what went to which, just depended on whatever address my dad gave to whoever. He had the box for years after he retired. The old key was almost worn smooth from 50 years or so of use and beginning on a big key chain.
I get that. It's a risk vs reward decision. I do agree that inconveniencing your friend puts you firmly into a position where you're allowed to have an opinion. I'm sure they are good people who just have this weird thing they do or you would have led with that. They are entitled to settle into an arrangement as they see fit. I know my parents wouldn't ask me to do anything like that. I also wouldn't do that to my kids, and frankly, when I order stuff I want that **** NOW. I'm not waiting for someone else to pass it to me.
Fun little thought exercise for a Friday.
You should send this to Murph and Andy for their Who's the A-hole segment!
Once or twice is one thing (example - they are going to be out of town). Routinely making your wife deliver packages is a bit too much. As for the Saturday packages, I would tell them "I'll bring them to town on Monday.,,or you can drive over here if you need them sooner."
Being older is not an excuse for demanding unnecessary services, especially since she's not alone in the house.
I'm curious - iirc you are about the same age as my kids (43 to 50). How old is your MIL? You don't have to answer that if you don't want to, but if she was considerably older when your wife was born, I might change my opinion.
Edit - I didn't read any other responses before posting this so my questions may have already been answered. And I'm going to add that if it doesn't bother your wife to do it, then let it go. But if something is delivered that can't sit outside if you're gone, it should be her making the arrangements to protect the package not you.
Yes. I like them and they are absolutely good people. They just have a history of taking absurd stances on trivial things, and it's my nature to push back on that. I realize that's a fairly off-putting side of my nature, and this is a case where it really doesn't matter, so why make a scene?
But it still eats me alive.
You should see the way my wife deep cleans the house if the MIL is even in the same county, lest a snarky comment be made.Your MIL’s apron strings seem long and strong.
I like the idea of sending an anonymous gift.
You should track it and just happen to be visiting them when it's delivered.. haha
I guess I didn't make it clear - my wife does not deliver these to their home. My wife works in the town where she grew up, which is where my in-laws have their PO box. My wife only brings the packages on days where she's at work. My MIL then drives into town to get them out of my wife's car.
My wife isn't making special trips. It's just that these packages take up space in our home, and are one more thing for her to remember in the morning when she's loading up our 20 month old daughter to go to daycare. And I've had to enlist my friends to move the packages inside of our home during winter, when we were gone.
This is the frustration with my wife for some minor things as well with her parents. She just will not address them in any way and it drives me nuts.
Those should not be shared. They should also not be used if the spouse runs an errand without the person to whom the tag is assigned. People who have a legitimate need for those parking spaces should be the ones parking there.
If she has a legitimate need, it's fairly easy to obtain a temporary pass. I talked to my doc pre-surgery and my tag was ready from the git-go. Even now, post surgery, it should still be fairly easy for her to obtain a legitimate one.
I'm going to jump in on this a bit. 30 years ago my sisters & I bought our retired father his first PC for Christmas. We (and our spouses) set it up for him, including splitting his phone line so that the computer would go in the room he chose and still have a modem. It was a HUGE struggle trying to teach him how to boot it up (fortunately we were past the stage of boot disks), how set up and open email and browsers and other things. Keep in mind that this man was literally a rocket scientist...an AE that worked at the Cape during the Apollo missions. I thought he was just being stubborn (he was 70, the same age I am now).
Now, I'm not so sure. I spent my career working with a computer on my desk...started with decwriters and graduated to keypunch, to PCs. Now, I find it tough to figure out new things. I'm very grateful for the help I received on this site when ISU switched to e-tickets (I printed them out at first), and finally to forced scanning. I'm really good with tickemaster now. But then I get hit with AXS, or with Eventbrite, and I'm back at square one.
Point is, it's not always refusing to learn. Sometimes my brain just doesn't wrap itself around things like it used to, and sometimes I forget from one game to the next how to work an app. Patience, padawan - at some point you may be lucky enough to get old too.
Maybe start with do you want to be the A-Hole? Life is short. Sounds like a triangle to me. Those things always have at least one sharp point and most times three different points. Guess whose side it will be on when it is left standing. Typically it ends two against one. So I will ask again, do you want to be the A-Hole?
My dad with ESPN+ fits this to a T. Instead of learning how to do it, he mostly just complains about not being able to watch. Luckily they’re moving very soon and I’m in charge of internet/TV for the new place. I’m switching them from DISH to YouTube TV and making sure they’ll have easy access to ESPN+. I’ll spend as long as it takes to teach them how to use all of it, and will print out instructions. But I’m still expecting a phone call the first time something doesn’t work perfectly
im just jaded.I'm going to jump in on this a bit. 30 years ago my sisters & I bought our retired father his first PC for Christmas. We (and our spouses) set it up for him, including splitting his phone line so that the computer would go in the room he chose and still have a modem. It was a HUGE struggle trying to teach him how to boot it up (fortunately we were past the stage of boot disks), how set up and open email and browsers and other things. Keep in mind that this man was literally a rocket scientist...an AE that worked at the Cape during the Apollo missions. I thought he was just being stubborn (he was 70, the same age I am now).
Now, I'm not so sure. I spent my career working with a computer on my desk...started with decwriters and graduated to keypunch, to PCs. Now, I find it tough to figure out new things. I'm very grateful for the help I received on this site when ISU switched to e-tickets (I printed them out at first), and finally to forced scanning. I'm really good with tickemaster now. But then I get hit with AXS, or with Eventbrite, and I'm back at square one.
Point is, it's not always refusing to learn. Sometimes my brain just doesn't wrap itself around things like it used to, and sometimes I forget from one game to the next how to work an app. Patience, padawan - at some point you may be lucky enough to get old too.
my boss at works absolutely refuses to adapt to technology and it drives me up the wall and makes my job 100x harder
