Its difficult to be staring the ending of your life in the eye, and not knowing the future and how it not only going to affect you, but your wife and kids.
I lost my SIL last month, a week before my younger brother called, he has been feeling sick all winter long, and went up for some blood tests to figure out what was wrong. They diagnosed with terminal liver cancer, he was referred to IC, where they have started some infusions to slow down the growth of the cancer. I pushed him to go up to Mayo for a second opinion, they had it all set up and his insurance company refused to OK it, they said Mayo is out of his area, he could go to the Mercy Cancer Clinic in Des Moines or continue treatment in IC.
According to an email I received from his daughter, if he does everything they say, basically stop drinking, take all the infusions and get very lucky, they give him a year at most. The doctor, who is a local kid and went to school with my niece, told her that there was nothing anyone could do for him, the treatment he is on, is to slow down, not cure his cancer. Chemo and radiation are out of the question as he would not survive either treatment, a liver transplant is not an option as he would die on the table from lack of blood.
Treasure every minute you have with your wife and kids, take them on trips, even if its to the park, things that they can remember, when you are gone, and take plenty of photos or videos of you for them to have and remember you, when you are gone. God bless.
