The book I refer to (can't remember the name) was about modern warplanes, written just a few years back, because it referred to the retirement of the plane.
In simulated combat, it had the top scores. In actual service, it noted it had a lack of targets as I mentioned before. Its radar was unique, and scared off most potential targets.
Defensively, it wasn't a dogfighter, but it could essentially outrun most missles and other planes. It was a lot more nimble than it looks due to its design.
The book mentioned that it is believed the Iranians did have success with the plane, judging from the Iraqi's reaction to its radar during Desert Storm.
The conclusion this book had was until the F-22, it was the most feared bird in the sky, partly due to it never being challenged.
The problem with simulated combat is that you don't take into account how horrible the missiles actually can be, especially in DACT. The AIM-7 (the primary BVR weapon against fighter-sized targets on the F-14) has (had) a pretty abysmal track record, and if the F-14 was in close enough to shoot AIM-9s, it was generally at a disadvantage to everything smaller than it (F-15 included) especially the older F-14s with TF-30s. The AIM-54 was alright against non-maneuvering large RCS targets (i.e. tankers and the like), but nobody in their right mind would be actually using them against a fighter sized target at close range.
Every radar on every plane is unique. Some are more capable than others. The F-14s was great for it's time, but it's long range, as you noted, could often be a detriment as well.
Had the F-14 carried AIM-120s, it's maybe a different story. Without that missile available to it, though, it's going to lose every time against an AIM-120 equipped aircraft in a no-holds-barred BVR engagement.
Being able to outrun other missiles is great, but if their launch range is greater than yours (which was the case once the AA-10 showed up in the early 80s), you're always going to be running, especially when you have to support a shot like you do with the AIM-7 and you can't just launch and leave.
Of course I'm comparing F-15Cs, F-16Cs and the like against the F-14, not the older A models which probably were pretty comparable to the F-14 in a lot of ways, especially when they both carried nothing but AIM-7s. The F-14 would probably have a bit of an advantage with it's long look (at least as long as he was below the guys he's shooting at, since look down/ shoot down wasn't a strength of the F-14).