Life advice for younger self/younger generations
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Yeah, sure. Just like that bull**** rumor about Milan's hand...
Career - balance chasing the dollar with quality of life. Don't move somewhere you don't want in order to cash in. Balance. Limit stress. Have ******* fun
Love - tall girls need love too. So do some with a little extra on the scale. Crazy women and great sex is real, but it's a dangerous game. Don't get divorced especially if you divide the assets juuuust before the great recession. If you meet a girl who grows on you because of her soul and good heart....pay close attention to that one.
Relationships - depends on the relationship
Health - stay in shape. Not for looks but for health and (hopefully) longevity. Bench 300. Run a marathon. Walk. Doesn't matter.
Money - invest invest invest. Any loan to family or friends is a gift. If you get the cash back it's a bonus.
Have quiet confidence. The loud ones are hiding an insecurity and overcompensating.
Eat weird food. Date outside of your race. Do weird things. Experiences make for an interesting person. Don't be dull
Everything in life is an equation. There are things that add to your life and things that subtract from your life.
Don't waste your time, energy, emotional capital on the things that subtract and do everything you possibly can to embrace the things that add.
Don't waste your time, energy, emotional capital on the things that subtract and do everything you possibly can to embrace the things that add.
Just be nice to people. Everyone gets in their own little bubble and you have no idea what other people are going though.
At the same time, stand up for others and what is right. You don't need to tolerate intolerance.
At the same time, stand up for others and what is right. You don't need to tolerate intolerance.
Learn how to weed out toxic people, including family. Some people have a hard time with the 'family' part of that. But if they're causing you stress and anxiety, it's ok to remove yourself from their presence.
It's ok to put yourself first once in a while. Don't live for others exclusively. The universe will not mind if you take care of you now and then (and you'll actually feel better if you do).
If you want to travel, do it when you're still young. Once you're married, have kids, a career, it gets a LOT more difficult to figure out how to get away to those places you've always wanted to visit. Find a way to make it happen. If it's important enough, you'll figure it out.
Ditto on starting a retirement account ASAP. It's never going to get cheaper to retire. Start early and when you're comfortable, max out your contributions. You'll set yourself up well for your golden years.
Work to live, don't live to work. Too many people allow their jobs/careers to define them. I work for a paycheck so I can live and do things I enjoy. The job is just a means to an end.
If you can, marry your best friend. Keep each other laughing. Have ridiculous inside jokes that no one else gets. Share common interests. Looks fade, as does the 'drive' (for most people), but having true companionship is what matters.
It's ok to put yourself first once in a while. Don't live for others exclusively. The universe will not mind if you take care of you now and then (and you'll actually feel better if you do).
If you want to travel, do it when you're still young. Once you're married, have kids, a career, it gets a LOT more difficult to figure out how to get away to those places you've always wanted to visit. Find a way to make it happen. If it's important enough, you'll figure it out.
Ditto on starting a retirement account ASAP. It's never going to get cheaper to retire. Start early and when you're comfortable, max out your contributions. You'll set yourself up well for your golden years.
Work to live, don't live to work. Too many people allow their jobs/careers to define them. I work for a paycheck so I can live and do things I enjoy. The job is just a means to an end.
If you can, marry your best friend. Keep each other laughing. Have ridiculous inside jokes that no one else gets. Share common interests. Looks fade, as does the 'drive' (for most people), but having true companionship is what matters.
I thought I did this but I regret not doing it more.
One of my most meaningful documents I own is a 23 page typewritten "Story of My Life" from a great aunt I don't remember ever meeting. I does include much of my grandmother, who she was very close to, but it also paints a picture of life in rural Iowa that seems both inspiring and tragic.
And yes, I'm trying to write something similar. I need to get back to it. I haven't touched it in a couple years.
Well it’s turning out to be true. So I might have helped make some CF gamblers a nice pay day getting in before the line changed.
Find a hobby or type of exercise that you truly enjoy, one that you can do all year round and make it a priority. Staying active is so important. Also start stretching, if you’re already stretching, stretch more.
Doesn’t matter if they are family or long time friends, cut people out of your life that don’t add value to it. Can be hard but will have a massive impact on your life.
Don’t take risks, take calculated risks. There is a massive difference and if you don’t know the difference then learn it asap.
Save money but don’t forget to live your life. Compounding interest is an incredible thing but those years from 18-28 you aren’t getting back. Don’t out yourself into debt but don’t save your way out of having fun with friends.
Finally. Don’t have kids until you really think it though. Ask yourself if you think you are capable of taking care of a kid with severe special needs. How prepared you are financially for everything that can possibly happen. Have those tough conversations with your partner before trying to have a kid.
Doesn’t matter if they are family or long time friends, cut people out of your life that don’t add value to it. Can be hard but will have a massive impact on your life.
Don’t take risks, take calculated risks. There is a massive difference and if you don’t know the difference then learn it asap.
Save money but don’t forget to live your life. Compounding interest is an incredible thing but those years from 18-28 you aren’t getting back. Don’t out yourself into debt but don’t save your way out of having fun with friends.
Finally. Don’t have kids until you really think it though. Ask yourself if you think you are capable of taking care of a kid with severe special needs. How prepared you are financially for everything that can possibly happen. Have those tough conversations with your partner before trying to have a kid.
1. You can leave your small town, appreciate it for what it is, and leave. It's not a trap
2. Really value friendships. Your circle doesn't need to be huge, you can have like 3 CORE friends that value your opinion and vice versa
3. Go on spring break. Go be a college kid. Do dumb stuff, but make sure you're ready for the consequences.
4. It's okay if your worldview changes on things, you're not born to a certain way of thinking, you develop that over time.
2. Really value friendships. Your circle doesn't need to be huge, you can have like 3 CORE friends that value your opinion and vice versa
3. Go on spring break. Go be a college kid. Do dumb stuff, but make sure you're ready for the consequences.
4. It's okay if your worldview changes on things, you're not born to a certain way of thinking, you develop that over time.
Do not wait until you have money to invest your money
Save $50 to $100 a month in a savings account.
Invest at least to the company match in 401k.
Set a budget stick to it.
If I knew as much about money at 20 years old as I do at 50. I would be retired or no longer needing to work.
Save $50 to $100 a month in a savings account.
Invest at least to the company match in 401k.
Set a budget stick to it.
If I knew as much about money at 20 years old as I do at 50. I would be retired or no longer needing to work.
1. Never get less than 12 hours of sleep.
2. Never play cards with a guy who has the same name as a city
3. Never get involved with a woman with a tattoo of a dagger on her body.
2. Never play cards with a guy who has the same name as a city
3. Never get involved with a woman with a tattoo of a dagger on her body.
