Random Thoughts XI (Eleven Pipers Piping)
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My boys' girlfriend of the moment depends on which manipulative little witch needs help with math and science for the year.
Kind of like one of the current ones. She got on his phone when he was checking her homework for her and asked who the creepy old guy was on all his social media with the workout shaming. Son said it was his weird uncle. Girlfriend said he must he a lot older than my husband (instant points with husband). He's actually 13 years younger than my husband.
Kind of like one of the current ones. She got on his phone when he was checking her homework for her and asked who the creepy old guy was on all his social media with the workout shaming. Son said it was his weird uncle. Girlfriend said he must he a lot older than my husband (instant points with husband). He's actually 13 years younger than my husband.
Husband's grandmother painted a lot. My evil MIL and her twisted sisters nearly had old lady wrestling match over those.
Did they tell your MIL "We're not gonna take it?"
My boys' girlfriend of the moment depends on which manipulative little witch needs help with math and science for the year.
Kind of like one of the current ones. She got on his phone when he was checking her homework for her and asked who the creepy old guy was on all his social media with the workout shaming. Son said it was his weird uncle. Girlfriend said he must he a lot older than my husband (instant points with husband). He's actually 13 years younger than my husband.
She good
We've done that. We're a blended family. We heard one of the boys telling his sibs that he would be getting all of the woodworking and shop tools because they belong to "his dad". Problem is, they were mostly bought after we were together, so they belong to both of us, and his dad swiftly disabused him of the notion that he would get first pick of everything "masculine" because of DNA. There are a few things that the kids have specifically requested, mostly that they have a fondness for. We have incorporated those items in our wills to make it clear. Each time we clear out "stuff", we give the kids the option to take it. If no one wants it, it goes to the 141 garage sale, the Goodwill, or the dumpster. One son has been named as executor in the event that we pass at the same time...we want him to have to deal with as little drama as we can.
So far we've been fortunate - I did a lot of grospointe needlework before my hands got bad. The kids tend to have their favorite works, so those have divvied up pretty well. Keeping my fingers crossed.
two daughters got married in two weeks?! That sounds like a crazy time for the family! Congrats!
We do something like that. We call it "dotting" because at least originally the idea was that my mom and her siblings were each attached a color and given dot stickers and then they could "dot" the thing that they wanted.
So far we've been fortunate - I did a lot of grospointe needlework before my hands got bad. The kids tend to have their favorite works, so those have divvied up pretty well. Keeping my fingers crossed.
My siblings and I had no fights over anything, just my sister wanting things she hasn't actually taken yet. I keep thinking when I am an empty nester, I'll start trying to go through things for the boys. Biggest problem we have are the boxes of old pictures where no one wrote the names on them. My mom knew who everyone was so why bother? Tried to get a little help from my 91 year old uncle with dementia, pretty lost cause even 17 years ago when my mom died.
I can't imagine the estate sale we will need one day. My mom's house is about 6000 sq ft. and it is filled with stuff.
My boys' girlfriend of the moment depends on which manipulative little witch needs help with math and science for the year.
Kind of like one of the current ones. She got on his phone when he was checking her homework for her and asked who the creepy old guy was on all his social media with the workout shaming. Son said it was his weird uncle. Girlfriend said he must he a lot older than my husband (instant points with husband). He's actually 13 years younger than my husband.
I'm struggling to find what about this girl is a manipulative witch from this story.
Also to note: your boys aren't stupid. They know if they're being used for math help. They're also likely using the girls for something or another as well. It sure ain't a one way street.
My older sister has all of the old photos. Every now & again she'll scan one or two from a group and send them out to living relatives of my parents to see if they can identify anyone. Since my father is 93, we're running out of time to ID people also.
oh the joys of divvying up stuff. There was enough drama when my great-grandma died and things that were supposed to go to certain people found their way to other people instead. My great-grandma had little love for her DIL (my grandma) and would not have been pleased to see how much went to her and her favorite child. The expected recipients (which included my dad and the children of GG's other child), did not make much fuss because in the end it was "stuff" and it was thrown at my dad that he was "getting the farm" and some family heirlooms that were supposed to stay with the farmstead. Things that had been at the farm for a couple generations at that point.
Then when we moved to the farm, those certain items (mostly furniture and some personal items of great-grandfather who was very close with my dad and uncle) were taken from the farm anyway and many denials were issued about how it had always been said that they stay.
And thus the schism that had been brewing for years fully opened up. In the years after, we became close with my grandma's brother and it turned out that she did a similar thing when their mom died. Luckily, he was the executor and could stop some of it. But couldn't stop her from literally stealing things from their mother while she was sick at the end of her life. Their mother was somewhat of a poet and wrote a poem about the "vultures" that not so subtly hinted at my grandma and the sibling partner in crime.
tl;dr, my grandma (well, my grandfather as well) is a rather unpleasant and greedy person.
we have sort of created "new" heirlooms that will remain at the farm and my mom has made it clear that they will be staying put. She's got some stuff from her side she plans to give to my sister and I, which is fine, I saw enough of that drama and have no intent to perpetuate more of the same when the time comes. Though there is a beautiful handmade cherry bassinet that her uncle made for one of us kids that I wouldn't mind having! Not sure the condition of it now though. Oh, and I totally call dibs on my mom's cross stitching supplies. Think I'm safe to claim that
Then when we moved to the farm, those certain items (mostly furniture and some personal items of great-grandfather who was very close with my dad and uncle) were taken from the farm anyway and many denials were issued about how it had always been said that they stay.
And thus the schism that had been brewing for years fully opened up. In the years after, we became close with my grandma's brother and it turned out that she did a similar thing when their mom died. Luckily, he was the executor and could stop some of it. But couldn't stop her from literally stealing things from their mother while she was sick at the end of her life. Their mother was somewhat of a poet and wrote a poem about the "vultures" that not so subtly hinted at my grandma and the sibling partner in crime.
tl;dr, my grandma (well, my grandfather as well) is a rather unpleasant and greedy person.
we have sort of created "new" heirlooms that will remain at the farm and my mom has made it clear that they will be staying put. She's got some stuff from her side she plans to give to my sister and I, which is fine, I saw enough of that drama and have no intent to perpetuate more of the same when the time comes. Though there is a beautiful handmade cherry bassinet that her uncle made for one of us kids that I wouldn't mind having! Not sure the condition of it now though. Oh, and I totally call dibs on my mom's cross stitching supplies. Think I'm safe to claim that
so, if you read through my mammoth post, when we were in the process of moving to the farm and the drama erupted, I was old enough to realize that my parents and uncle believed that some things being taken were supposed to remain with the farm. I decided to take things into my own hands. My grandparents and relatives helping them move had been putting notes on things to stay vs. go. So I started switching around the notes on anything that I thought looked old and should stay.
I wasn't perfect, because I marked some junky looking stuff as "go" and turns out it was my dad's high school crap and people were like da fuq does this say "go" for??? But the old looking gilded mirror that I swapped the note for slipped by anyone's notice. I told my mom years later and we had a good laugh. Every time I walk by that mirror at home I think about crafty young CG. Didn't save any of the high priority items though because obviously with the drama surrounding them, people weren't fooled by the note saying "stay".
Yep....Alana (she's pictured) got married in Ann Arbor on July 15, and Hannah got married in Anacortes, WA on July 22. Drove to Michigan, flew to Washington. (Anacortes is on Fidalgo Island in the San Juan islands, about an hour south of Vancouver, BC. One of the prettiest places you'll ever see. Thanks for the congrats!!!!
OK, here's a pic from the second daughter's wedding (Hannah).....that's me on the right, her real dad on the left. Long story - but it's all good. Hannah calls me Dad, and if she needs something she calls me. I love her like my own!!!!
And yes, I'm well aware I don't have any hair!!!!
And yes, I'm well aware I don't have any hair!!!!
I debate whether I should do anything fancy with my dad's military medals.
He didn't get some of them when he got back to the US, because there was a line for sorting out your medals and a line to get on a train, and he took the train.
He never cared to get his other medals over the years. They never meant much to him. Unlike Bob Dole, he didn't parade around in his Purple Heart because so many of his friends paid a higher price.
Right now they sit in a drawer where they have sat for decades. I guess I'm tempted just to leave it at that, maybe do a journal or video with his thoughts about them.
I do need to preserve the war letters between my parents though. Most are his, not hers, for obvious reasons. I feel like maybe I should type them up too though, as not sure the grandkids could read his writing.
He didn't get some of them when he got back to the US, because there was a line for sorting out your medals and a line to get on a train, and he took the train.
He never cared to get his other medals over the years. They never meant much to him. Unlike Bob Dole, he didn't parade around in his Purple Heart because so many of his friends paid a higher price.
Right now they sit in a drawer where they have sat for decades. I guess I'm tempted just to leave it at that, maybe do a journal or video with his thoughts about them.
I do need to preserve the war letters between my parents though. Most are his, not hers, for obvious reasons. I feel like maybe I should type them up too though, as not sure the grandkids could read his writing.
may want to type up the letters anyway just because of fading
for the medals - what about a shadow box type display?
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