We have lived in central Iowa since graduating from ISU in 94. We started our family right away without financial planning or responsibility. We had two kids early, and excelerated from around 45K combined to a current peak of around $150 not including bonus.
We probably went a little overboard on our current house, but have never really been crazy about cars, boats, or other things. We ran up credit cards when we were younger, but have paid them off, and don't use them anymore.
I would say before the current recession we were a little more comfortable, but we were also able to get a better mortgage on our house after the collapse.
We have had stretches were we didn't really worry about money, and times when we didn't know what we were going to do. Even at $150K, I would say most Iowa families are a major repair (furnace), car, or health issue away from living pay check to pay check, or worse. We finally feel like we are catching up but now our kids are getting ready to enter college.
Looking back, I would say having some one help you with financial planning and responsibility could have an exponential impact on your wealth in later life. (duh I guess) After living through it and paying taxes, I feel like I have learned it's not how much you make, but what you spend. When I graduated from college, I would have never thought that I would be paying $150 month for a cell phone, $150.00 a month for cable for years and never really question it. Our first car payment was $265.00
Also, part of the real estate bubble burst was based on people defaulting on their homes. Many of these people were families making $150-300K a year, but spending way to much. They figured out that it was much easier to pay off their 8 credit card bills, cable, phone, etc, each month if they just skipped paying their mortgage. They also figured out that they could take half their mortgage and save it for rent or even a smaller house before, or once the bank decided to take their house, sometimes living rent free 12-18 months. They sad thing (smart for them) is that those people will probably come out with a better credit rating doing that than if they had be consistently late on all their credit cards.