Also, do natural recreation pond. Your post sounds like maintaining a pool would be added stress
The gardening/natural side of maintaining that ecosystem could be a healthy hobby as well
Work rut/burnout
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The gardening/natural side of maintaining that ecosystem could be a healthy hobby as well
Yoga has helped me with burn out. Also, ashwagandha helps your mood. One of the only natural things I've seen pretty great results from.
It's a fine line really. I've been with the same company over 20 years and there have been times I hated my job and thought about looking for something else but eventually my situation changed and it got better. Overall right now while I don't hate my job itself the toxic culture of the company in general is not motivating. I'm pretty fortunate I have a very hands-off manager that just lets me do my job without being a micro manager and he and I have never had any issues as I am one of his top performers and he doesn't have to deal with any complaints about my work so he just lets me do my thing since it doesn't generate any drama or complaints for him.
I've worked for a micro manager, worked for a manager that was too hands off that I could not even get ahold of him when I did need to engage him, and have gone through a merger and some re-orgs over my time. There were some times it got so stressful I started looking for other jobs but usually my situation got better if I stuck it out and I found that it would be tough to find a comparable job that had the same pay and benefits I make. Now I am so far in with my current company that not only would I have a hard time finding something with the same pay and benefits but if they laid me off tomorrow I'd basically get a year's worth of compensation which I'm qualified enough that I should be able to find another job in a reasonable amount of time and essentially get 2 paychecks with that overlap to knock off a year closer to retiring.
Best advice I would say is never let work be the most important thing in your life. If you don't have a good work to personal life balance then that is a good reason to look for another job. That has never been the case for me, overtime has always been voluntary. If I was working 50-60 hours a week I probably would have left by now. My wife has gone through multiple job changes over her career. Shes been a manager twice and that would push her to 60+ hours most weeks and wipe her out. It got to the point where she knew that working that many hours would not be good for our marriage and our family life so when she has ever got to that point she has been quick to find something less demanding. For some people their career advancement is what makes them happy and for others their time away from work is what makes them happy. That is the balance most people will struggle with over their career.
I've worked for a micro manager, worked for a manager that was too hands off that I could not even get ahold of him when I did need to engage him, and have gone through a merger and some re-orgs over my time. There were some times it got so stressful I started looking for other jobs but usually my situation got better if I stuck it out and I found that it would be tough to find a comparable job that had the same pay and benefits I make. Now I am so far in with my current company that not only would I have a hard time finding something with the same pay and benefits but if they laid me off tomorrow I'd basically get a year's worth of compensation which I'm qualified enough that I should be able to find another job in a reasonable amount of time and essentially get 2 paychecks with that overlap to knock off a year closer to retiring.
Best advice I would say is never let work be the most important thing in your life. If you don't have a good work to personal life balance then that is a good reason to look for another job. That has never been the case for me, overtime has always been voluntary. If I was working 50-60 hours a week I probably would have left by now. My wife has gone through multiple job changes over her career. Shes been a manager twice and that would push her to 60+ hours most weeks and wipe her out. It got to the point where she knew that working that many hours would not be good for our marriage and our family life so when she has ever got to that point she has been quick to find something less demanding. For some people their career advancement is what makes them happy and for others their time away from work is what makes them happy. That is the balance most people will struggle with over their career.
Don’t count on your Christmas bonus to pay for it. You could get jelly of the month membership instead.
Samsies. Hate my boss and most of the people I work with. Raises have been ****. Insurance has gone up significantly over the last few years. Only the old timers get bonuses.
That being said, I’m very good at what I do, I still make decent money and I’m very secure in an industry that has been less than secure over the last decade or so. My family can’t afford for me to leave and risk being laid off, so there I stay.
I work for someone that never leaves the office but I’ve made it a point to work hard and prove my value, work my 40 and be home with the kids. The expectations at work have adjusted to it.
I used to work 100+ hour weeks during the busy seasons at my old employer. Never going back to that.
I’m going to disagree on the pool depending on how he views things. I find a sense of accomplishment taking care of our pool. It gives me some time alone at night to fiddle around and have some time to myself. It pays off seeing the kids have fun. They use it almost daily.
In my case, nope. I was young and knew what I signed up for though. I went from making about 16 an hour to 85k salary over the course of about 10 years though. At the time, it was worth it to me.
Hopefully that’s changed. I’ve always had some sort of OT compensation (currently straight time OT as a salaried employee). If I’m looking to switch jobs I’m not entertaining any offers that don’t allow for it.
Yeah, if you look at my post a couple back I translated that salary plus into a new job where I adjusted back down to a solid 40. My oldest caught the crap end in his younger years but I adjusted for the second two.
In general, the job market right now is absolutely abysmal, so I’m not sure what demands can be made. Best of luck to you.
I’m not looking currently. Started a new job in April actually. There’s a shortage in our industry of people at my experience level, so there’s opportunities to be found
I can see it both ways as some days it’s probably added stress and some days not a big deal. My wife stays at home, so maybe if she wants a pool, she will have to accept the responsibility of taking care of it most days.
I still enjoy mowing the yard, although my teenager has taken over the duties most weeks. I have a 4 acre yard, so there’s something nice about putting in the air pods and cutting grass for a while without any distractions. Call me Forrest Gump I guess.
Not sure if you work from home but one thing I find that helps is to get in my workout in the middle of the day.
I went through this 30 years ago. Exact same conditions. I was working 60 hour weeks, met and married my wife and started an MBA. I countered it by changing positions within the same company (luckily company was big enough and actually encourages trying different jobs). Stayed with the company for another 30 years until I just retired (changed positions 3 more times too). The longer I worked, I slowly backed off my work hours too (had kids to spend time with).
I guess my advice is see if there is something you can change that provides a fresh challenge so it is not the same old everyday.
