You pretend like that’s a Matt problem and not an Iowa State problem. I hate saying it, but falling down under the weight of expectations is our ******* calling card at this point.
It kind of is if he used more of his salary towards the mortgage/bills while she just dumped hers into the 401k. That's why it's hard to treat money/assets separately in a marriage/divorce scenario.
Anyone who buys something with someone on the loan and allows them to not have to pay deserves to lose everything. 50/50. If he bought the house he keeps it, she can keep her 401k. This isn't hard.
