I have a friend that continually goes to the hospital only to be told there is nothing wrong with her. They won't even prescribe her pain pills. Why does this condition only affect middle-aged women who are lonely and need attention?
It's real in the sense that doctors often don't know what's really going on and they have to call it "something".
The human nervous system is extremely complex and poorly understood at the localized level. I've been dealing with a variant of trigeminal neuralgia/trigeminal neuropathic pain for close to 3 decades. I didn't even realize how bad it was, and how long I had been living with it until I had my wisdom teeth taken out when I was 20. Prior to removal I had issues with nasal breathing, headaches, difficulties smiling and neck/head posture...basically a bunch of things I didn't think were related. Three days post removal it was like this vice that was constantly on my head released. I could breath nasally without impedance, felt comfortable standing (no neck and shoulder tightness), and could smile without it being physically awkward. Unfortunately this was short lived and was followed by complications/reaction in my upper left tooth socket that yielded a cystic mass. It didn't take a medical degree to know it wasn't right as it formed within a matter of minutes while waiting for CyRide. It was accompanied with extreme localized pain, impaired nasal breathing,
At the time I had no idea what was going on but I apparently have issues with my trigeminal nerve on the left side of my face. The oral surgeon at the time didn't have a clue, was reluctant to remove the mass, and didn't even take my complaints seriously. It's hard to say for sure but I'm pretty sure there was an exposed nerve which triggered the formation of a neuroma/fibroma, then healed/scarred. I've been to several oral surgeons (before I knew it was nerve), ENTs, pain specialists, neurologists, and neurosurgeons. It wasn't until I got to the neurosurgeons where I felt anyone even had the slightest clue as to what they were dealing with but even then they really didn't know.
Long story short is that modern medicine sucks when there isn't a test, scan, or clear cut symptomatic presentation that leads to a definitive diagnosis. In my case the only thing that showed on scans was an inflamed left trigeminal nerve on the MRN. Well, I already knew it was ****** up but what EXACTLY is causing it? Is the nerve scarred? Is there an impingement further back that caused inflammation and for the nerve to be easily irritated? Is there a form of CRPS or something similar causing a local reaction? Nobody can tell me and all of the "treatments" have been shot in the dark stabs, from medicine to brain surgery, in hopes of alleviating the issue. But throwing **** at a wall hoping it sticks is a more way to address a problem. You have to have better diagnostics to understand it first, something that's lacking due to multiple factors.
So, getting back to the original question, I think fibromyalgia is a diagnosis made in the absense of truly knowing what is going on. In some cases it may be psychosomatic. In others it's some kind of inflammatory or autoimmune issue. In others it could be a nerve issue, as some kind of myelination disorder. But I can tell you with a large percentage of certainty your friend isn't crazy. The medical field sucks at diagnosing the not so obvious. Trust me, I've lived it for over 20 years.