I don't think you're a bad person for not wanting to go, in fact I think that's the right decision if you're not feeling well. But trying to govern her own decision is ******
Spending Christmas without your wife and kid might be tough.I'm feeling conflicted.
And I’m glad you got to an agreement, because putting her in a situation where she can’t go because of safely traveling with a 15 month on her own, would be a pretty ****** way to handle it.marriages are partnerships. You and your partner have to be in the same page. Her driving 12 hours with a 15 month old just isn’t safe or doable. We actually have a very good line of communication and talk through our issues.
Have you asked her parents what they think? If they are good with it you should be too.