Death

FriendlySpartan

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Death with dignity is legal in Washington. I've been through the process with my mom, and am in the later stages of it with my MIL. My mom's last day went exactly as she scripted it. Very lucky to have it as an option where we live.
100% agree, west coast has some excellent options. In the Midwest it is a massive uphill battle. I hope as the boomer generation ages and more and more of their children have to experience just how long we can prolong life that it will be a turning point. It’s why having an end of life plan and advanced directive is so important to everyone.

Admitted a 102 year old women weeks back who had fallen and broken her hip. She had already made her peace with dying, said her goodbyes and for years had been telling her family she was ready. She had spent her last 80ish years living in her home where she had raised her kids mostly independent. Because of the nature of her injury instead of dying peacefully in her home without pain through physician assisted death she spent her last two weeks in hospice, struggling to breathe and slowly deteriorating.

Once she passed the family showed up to the ED with a card thanking us for her care and saying it was some of the last time she was truly comfortable. She seemed religious so I don’t know if she would have even taken the option but the fact remains that she should have had a choice and the same thing is true for millions.
 
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BryceC

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I just assume most people think about death a lot, even though I don't think my own thoughts on it have evolved in quite a while. It's the great unknown and in a lot of ways defines our very existence. Death gives our life meaning. As I have gotten older I don't take much for granted any more. I know anyone in my life can be taken from me at any time, and that goes for my own life. I guess it has made me appreciate what I have when I have it much more. I'm not sure what this existence is all about, but I'm going to enjoy it as much as I can while I have it.

Honestly I never think about it but I also think people are just wired differently. I really don’t think about the future at all. I’m not saying it’s good or bad, merely what is.

We are definitely getting closer to the end with my wife’s mom and I’m sure my dad who will be 83 this year.
 

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Honestly I never think about it but I also think people are just wired differently. I really don’t think about the future at all. I’m not saying it’s good or bad, merely what is.
Only asked because it over takes my mind daily. A lot of times it’s more just wanting to die or how I would do it without it looking like a suicide or involving another party.. ie driving onto train tracks or into an oncoming semi. It’s made the last few years very difficult. My favorite cliche I’ve learned is everything is temporary. Temporary could be 1 minute, 5 days, 50 years, but how long can just surviving temporarily last? It’s exhausting and makes most aspects of life very difficult.
 

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I’m not really scared of death but the randomness of it is something I think about a lot. I’m working 50-60 hour weeks with the goal to set myself and my family up for the long term. But I could die of a heart attack tomorrow in my early 40s or I could live to 90 like many in my extended family. All of this time spent at work could be awesome if I live a long life or it could be wasted because I won’t get to enjoy the fruits of that labor. Impossible to know but crazy to think about the potential variance…