One of my life goals is to get physician assisted death (dying with dignity) approved in the state of Michigan
Death
- Thread starter AltoonaFish
- Start date
Jacktronic
MONDAYTUESDAYWEDNESDAYTHURSDAYFRIDAYSATURDAYSUNDAY
I deal with depression and generalized anxiety disorder. I'm doing better on medication, but death and not existing is something I think about daily. Some days are harder than others. You're not alone. DM me if you ever want to talk.
Lost my dad to suicide in 1984 and I think about dying quite often. There hasn't been a week that has gone by since then that I haven't thought about it. I feel for you!!
When I was young, I never thought of death. it seemed....impossible. At 65 with advanced heart disease and diabetes (my last a1c was 8), i think about it every time i do a set of push-ups or hop on the elliptical machine.
I dont fear death, but i dont welcome it either. I'm not sure where I'll end up when i die. Hell? I have sinned more than my share. Heaven? I've sought redemption. A long, dreamless sleep? Not horrible. My spirit traveling the stars until reborn? shrug.
The uncertainty of what death brings, even if you are 100 percent believing in heaven and hell, should make anyone just a wee bit nervous. But, we control what we can and should not worry over things we can't change.
That said, when you are closer to it, you do think about it. Especially when you find out every other week one of your high school classmates, college classmates, neighbors growing up, have died.
I dont fear death, but i dont welcome it either. I'm not sure where I'll end up when i die. Hell? I have sinned more than my share. Heaven? I've sought redemption. A long, dreamless sleep? Not horrible. My spirit traveling the stars until reborn? shrug.
The uncertainty of what death brings, even if you are 100 percent believing in heaven and hell, should make anyone just a wee bit nervous. But, we control what we can and should not worry over things we can't change.
That said, when you are closer to it, you do think about it. Especially when you find out every other week one of your high school classmates, college classmates, neighbors growing up, have died.
We are experiencing this more and more. Have lost a lot of folks along the way. Many way too soon.
In 1997 or so, I was responsible for taking care of Geoffrey Fieger during a bioethics conference! As I escorted him in for a debate with a Catholic ethicist, he said, "don't let anyone shoot me." There were people in the audience who would have had no problem with him being shot. I took him for drinks before the post-debate reception and had a really interesting conversation. For the record, I think he won the debate, even though I'm still not comfortable with his position.
P.S. Fieger was Dr. Kevorkian's attorney at the time.
I accepted a long time ago that our human lives are ridiculously short in the grand scheme of things. Just think about how long the world has been around vs how much time you will be here.
So, I don't think about it much (I'm almost 40, almost a man like Gundy, I know.) I told myself I wasn't going to let fear of death dictate my life or beliefs. Too many people I know get fear-pressured into believing things that make no logical sense.
We have very little time, whatever happiness/sadness/anger/fear/plethora of other emotions I'm feeling towards life. I just always remind myself we get like 70, 80, 90 years here (if we're lucky.) I think about it, but I will never let the thought of dying invade my life too much.
My mother is a constant worrier and has told me things like "I won't be around forever", "what if I die...", "I don't expect to be around as long as ______" and she is still here in her mid 70s. I know it's kept her from achieving/experiencing some things she wanted to in her life.
Don't worry about death too much, because we and everyone you love (and hate) will pass away. (be aware of our finite situation, but embrace it and challenge it), just live your life, find as much joys in the things you enjoy as possible because we don't get much time when you think about it. Squeeze as much out of life as possible and keep your heads up!
So, I don't think about it much (I'm almost 40, almost a man like Gundy, I know.) I told myself I wasn't going to let fear of death dictate my life or beliefs. Too many people I know get fear-pressured into believing things that make no logical sense.
We have very little time, whatever happiness/sadness/anger/fear/plethora of other emotions I'm feeling towards life. I just always remind myself we get like 70, 80, 90 years here (if we're lucky.) I think about it, but I will never let the thought of dying invade my life too much.
My mother is a constant worrier and has told me things like "I won't be around forever", "what if I die...", "I don't expect to be around as long as ______" and she is still here in her mid 70s. I know it's kept her from achieving/experiencing some things she wanted to in her life.
Don't worry about death too much, because we and everyone you love (and hate) will pass away. (be aware of our finite situation, but embrace it and challenge it), just live your life, find as much joys in the things you enjoy as possible because we don't get much time when you think about it. Squeeze as much out of life as possible and keep your heads up!
Probably a healthy coping mechanism for someone who drives in a manner that includes frequent "interaction" with other vehicles.
Netflix has a documentary about that Silicon Valley tech guy who is attempting to live forever with a strict diet, blood swapping and other methods. Can't say I'd be down for that. The fact that life is short is one of the things that gives it meaning.
I can imagine. The stuff I see with distracted drivers on the road these days leaves the impression that at any given time, a third of the vehicles you encounter on the road have drivers that are impaired by their device.
I think about it some. Husband and I are old but our sons are all doing fine so no worries there. I am closest proximity to where my family are buried so I go to the cemetery quite a bit to check on things. One of husband’s relatives is drinking himself to death so can’t help but think about that. Had my own brush with it in my 20’s, but not sure if I experienced any real revelations or they were from anesthesia.
I think as I've aged I've maybe gone through the progressions of well, didn't fear it in teens and 20's. Now, after going through a few things several years ago, I looked at it differently. Now into my late 30's, I try to realize that I can't turn back the clock and to try and live every day like it's possibly my last. That's changed my perspective of not taking things for granted like I used to, put time and effort into the right things and not skip over that vacation or donut that a person can do.
I haven't lost anyone really close to me yet, and I fear that I may not handle death well, but I can see how it can impact people. Also seeing people pass around me at young ages of 30's and 40's as being all too common, just makes ya think.
I haven't lost anyone really close to me yet, and I fear that I may not handle death well, but I can see how it can impact people. Also seeing people pass around me at young ages of 30's and 40's as being all too common, just makes ya think.
One thing I haven't got done is get my revocable trust established and button down things with clarity so that the kids don't have to figure as much out on the fly as I did when my parents passed. Get a cemetery plot and marker. All of it can be done.
Same. Lost my dad at 75 last spring. Lost my brother 6 weeks later to cancer. Watching my in laws age is sad because I know my wife will be an absolute mess.
Death with dignity is legal in Washington. I've been through the process with my mom, and am in the later stages of it with my MIL. My mom's last day went exactly as she scripted it. Very lucky to have it as an option where we live.
I go back and forth a bit.
Sometimes it pains me to know I will miss out on a lot of things - fun talks with the kids, my grandaughter growing up, travel, technological advances, etc. This snippet sums it up-
I sit beside the fire and think
of how the world will be
when winter comes without a spring
that I shall ever see.
For still there are so many things
that I have never seen:
in every wood in every spring
there is a different green.
But then also, I am sometimes weary with the world already - just tired of the drudgery, other people, negative crap, stress. Death will be welcome at some point. Some days it feels like now, but not really, not just yet anyway.
Sometimes it pains me to know I will miss out on a lot of things - fun talks with the kids, my grandaughter growing up, travel, technological advances, etc. This snippet sums it up-
I sit beside the fire and think
of how the world will be
when winter comes without a spring
that I shall ever see.
For still there are so many things
that I have never seen:
in every wood in every spring
there is a different green.
But then also, I am sometimes weary with the world already - just tired of the drudgery, other people, negative crap, stress. Death will be welcome at some point. Some days it feels like now, but not really, not just yet anyway.
