relationship advice
- Thread starter Mtowncyclone13
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Thanks for all the feedback. It's a tough situation because the "good" couples we have met have all moved away for new jobs or have children. This couple goes to the bar frequently, and while we drink a lot too (no kids and lack of activities around here) we have told each other we don't want to be like them in the long run. We are early 30-ish so a lot of people would hang out with have children.
I have been looking for new jobs like crazy if only to find a new place to raise our future children. We have talked, cried, and prayed about our direction as far as where our happiness is in term of jobs and cities. Also, I would not talk to her parents for personal reasons.
I have been looking for new jobs like crazy if only to find a new place to raise our future children. We have talked, cried, and prayed about our direction as far as where our happiness is in term of jobs and cities. Also, I would not talk to her parents for personal reasons.
The key here is to be a better friend to your wife than her other friends. Just because you are married doesn't mean you are automatically a best friend. If you are a true friend then you can learn what your wife's opinion of the other woman's activities. During discussion of these activities show your support for good parts and more importantly support for your wife's disgust for the destructive actions. What your wife is looking for is support. your job is to know, deep down, what your wife wants you to support. If she really wants to experience something that you can't support, you have to understand why she would want to do that and gently steer her into changing her mind or role-play. If her trip is to support and protect her friend, support her and offer to help by establishing contact points throughout the trip and be supportive. If her real desire to is to have fun like her friend, then you should work diligently to become her real best friend.
I am located 15 miles from the center of Iowa. Not sure how I can get more midwestern!
Marshalltown is not in tijuana?I am located 15 miles from the center of Iowa. Not sure how I can get more midwestern!
Sounds like you need to become a father to change the scene and to migrate to other common friends. Right now she sounds like she wants the free time to party on her own and so the trip sounds good to her. The more I read this thread, the less this sounds like an acceptable situation. Drugs, alcohol, partying, trailer type dudes not sound like a good trip unless you have spy apps on her phone....
True story: My g'ma used to play that on 8-track..I'm barely old enough to remember 8 tracks, and I thought the next line was "400 children and a crop in the field"...
I wonder if Mtown's wife recognizes the danger of the trailer trash that her friend might bring near her. It is bad enough at a bar, but the thought of them at the apartment should really scare her . . . I don't even like to image what can happen in those situations.
When she shows up at 2 is probably the time that trusting her actually means something.
Well, I read this post last night, but I am currently drunk, so I'll say that you need to think clearly about your relationship. The whole thing is screwed up. You shouldn't tell her who to be friends with, but she shouldn't be friends with someone who is obviously so much trouble.
It is times like this when I am glad that I am single. But if you are the guy that sits next to my parents at football games, call me!
