Shared Hotel Rooms for Work

Rural

Well-Known Member
Feb 3, 2010
43,242
36,479
113
This is basically what I’m thinking. I am truthfully a very light sleeper. Sharing a bathroom with a near-complete stranger gives me a fair amount of anxiety. Hell, I haven’t stopped thinking about this since the email last Thursday.

Something like “Look, I’m on board with most of what we do, but I can’t do this. I’m not going to get any sleep and it will absolutely affect my job performance. I’m on the road until midnight some nights which requires that I get a good nights sleep the night before. If I’m sharing a room with someone, that’s not going to happen.”
Tell them exactly that.
 

throwittoblythe

Well-Known Member
Aug 7, 2006
3,931
4,636
113
Minneapolis, MN
"Family culture" is just code for we want to be able to treat you like **** and you feel obligated to endure it.

Yes. To me, this is a cost cutting approach disguised as “culture.” I don’t buy it at all. I’m honestly just trying to decide if I want to be forthcoming and say “I’m not doing this” or just not do it and see if they call me on it.

It’s been 2+ years since they’ve had this policy in place. We have hired A LOT of people in that time. I’m curious to see what the backlash is from all the new people who hired on when the policy was suspended and are used to having their own room.
 

ScottyP

Well-Known Member
SuperFanatic
SuperFanatic T2
Jan 24, 2007
5,324
7,739
113
Urbandale, IA
It was already mentioned that the OP gets anxiety about this. I would think that would be enough to get an excemption. Besides, I would think giving a few hours to of privacy would be good for job performance.

If they are using this policy, then that time should be considered on the clock and you should be paid for that time.

The CEO's policy shows that either he's being cheap or weird. Maybe both.
 
  • Like
Reactions: throwittoblythe

ScottyP

Well-Known Member
SuperFanatic
SuperFanatic T2
Jan 24, 2007
5,324
7,739
113
Urbandale, IA
Yes. To me, this is a cost cutting approach disguised as “culture.” I don’t buy it at all. I’m honestly just trying to decide if I want to be forthcoming and say “I’m not doing this” or just not do it and see if they call me on it.

It’s been 2+ years since they’ve had this policy in place. We have hired A LOT of people in that time. I’m curious to see what the backlash is from all the new people who hired on when the policy was suspended and are used to having their own room.
I would be forthcoming about it and be firm about it as well. The manager/supervisor would probably be willing to work with you on finding an alternative over losing an employee.
 
  • Like
Reactions: throwittoblythe

3TrueFans

Just a Happily Married Man
Sep 10, 2009
63,263
61,967
113
Ames
This would be absolute cause for me to leave that job. Peoples sleep habits are a pretty personal thing. There's 0 chance I'm sharing a room with someone I only know as a co-worker. 0 chance.
I wouldn't want to share a room with anyone that doesn't currently live in my house, let alone some coworker.
 
  • Like
Reactions: ksclone2

throwittoblythe

Well-Known Member
Aug 7, 2006
3,931
4,636
113
Minneapolis, MN
This would be absolute cause for me to leave that job. Peoples sleep habits are a pretty personal thing. There's 0 chance I'm sharing a room with someone I only know as a co-worker. 0 chance.

For me, it’s amplified by how much I travel. You want me to spend 16 hours traveling in a day and be away from home multiple nights every week then cheap out on the accommodations? No Fing way.
 

JM4CY

Well-Known Member
SuperFanatic
SuperFanatic T2
Aug 23, 2012
37,990
74,809
113
America
I'm certain it's overrated but I honestly wish I could travel once in a while for my job to change it up.
 
  • Like
Reactions: khardbored

ScottyP

Well-Known Member
SuperFanatic
SuperFanatic T2
Jan 24, 2007
5,324
7,739
113
Urbandale, IA
I need some advice on this…

I started at my current company in Fall 2020. Prior to COVID, they had a “shared hotel room” policy. Opposite sex are exempt, but basically the policy is “if you are traveling with someone else, you’re expected to share a room.” They just reinstated the policy this week.

The CEO’s line is all about “family culture” and “small company feel.” He did acknowledge the cost savings in his announcement, which I’m sure is the real driver.

I travel a lot for work; 1-2 nights every week. I’m probably alone 80% of the time but I will travel with someone else once every few months. I have to say, I am 100% against this policy. I like my privacy and honestly have a lot of anxiety around sharing a room with a coworker.

I should mention, this is not a startup. We have 700 employees and over $200M in revenue every year.

Anyone have some truthful and respectable ways to tell my boss I’m not on board?
trying to say this is about "family culture", but not allowing the employee the privacy to have a private conversation with actual family outside of work seems hypocritical.
 

throwittoblythe

Well-Known Member
Aug 7, 2006
3,931
4,636
113
Minneapolis, MN
trying to say this is about "family culture", but not allowing the employee the privacy to have a private conversation with actual family outside of work seems hypocritical.
I also don’t like that it puts employees in an awkward position. I am traveling with someone later this week. We’ve talked on the phone but never met in person.

I’m going to have to tell this guy “I’m sure you’re a fine roommate, but I’m not comfortable sharing a room with someone so I’m going to get a separate room.”
 
  • Winner
Reactions: aauummm

Clonefan32

Well-Known Member
Nov 19, 2008
23,555
26,009
113
I also don’t like that it puts employees in an awkward position. I am traveling with someone later this week. We’ve talked on the phone but never met in person.

I’m going to have to tell this guy “I’m sure you’re a fine roommate, but I’m not comfortable sharing a room with someone so I’m going to get a separate room.”

I'm not sure I'd worry about that-- I'd imagine the other guy will be equally thrilled. I can't imagine taking offense to it.
 

CloniesForLife

Well-Known Member
SuperFanatic
SuperFanatic T2
Apr 22, 2015
15,615
21,025
113
I've had coworkers in the past that I've become really good friends with so I could probably share a room with them but some coworker that I just know a little bit from work. **** no. Even the ones I'm friends with I'd prefer separate rooms.
 

ScottyP

Well-Known Member
SuperFanatic
SuperFanatic T2
Jan 24, 2007
5,324
7,739
113
Urbandale, IA
I also don’t like that it puts employees in an awkward position. I am traveling with someone later this week. We’ve talked on the phone but never met in person.

I’m going to have to tell this guy “I’m sure you’re a fine roommate, but I’m not comfortable sharing a room with someone so I’m going to get a separate room.”
can you pay a little out of your own pocket to get a separate room? depending on how long and how often, I would consider doing that.
 
  • Disagree
  • Like
Reactions: Pat and khardbored

JP4CY

Lord, beer me strength.
Staff member
SuperFanatic
SuperFanatic T2
Dec 19, 2008
74,742
95,838
113
Testifying
I also don’t like that it puts employees in an awkward position. I am traveling with someone later this week. We’ve talked on the phone but never met in person.

I’m going to have to tell this guy “I’m sure you’re a fine roommate, but I’m not comfortable sharing a room with someone so I’m going to get a separate room.”
Never meeting someone and sharing a room is weird.
I could see it if you're a close, small company, and regularly grab a beer after work on a Thursday or something.
 

MeanDean

Well-Known Member
SuperFanatic
Jan 5, 2009
14,672
20,957
113
Blue Grass IA-Jensen Beach FL
I've had coworkers in the past that I've become really good friends with so I could probably share a room with them but some coworker that I just know a little bit from work. **** no. Even the ones I'm friends with I'd prefer separate rooms.
Former Gov't employee.

Never had to share - but one time there was a training conference I needed to attend. One of the guys from another installation in the same job responsibilities and I had gotten acquainted at a previous training session and hung out a lot. I really needed the training and the budget had been cut for travel and my trip had been cancelled.

I asked my friend if he would mind sharing a room and he was fine. So I presented it to my management and they actually bought it.

Other than that, in 30 years I never shared lodging with a co-worker on business.
 

Help Support Us

Become a patron