What shame and guilt?I think there is a lot of guilt that women feel surrounding the entire early mothering process, and it sucks. Guilt if you can't breast feed, if you have to work, if you have to have a C-section, if you can't have a VBAC, if you use meds. If your child is healthy and happy, that's all that matters - and I say that as someone who felt shame and guilt. I think a lot of people act holier-than-thou about the things at which they succeed, and that causes a comparison contest.