Kade Blume

[AuH2O]

They must be afraid of a civil suit? how else can they allow him to wrestle?

There’s zero chance for that. He admitted to doing it to get tried as a juvenile. Just in terms of hazing there is 100% justification to kick him off the team.

 

[BikeSkiClone]

Again, if they feel like they are afraid of a civil suit and they feel like they have no power, resign.

I mean this sincerely I don't care how much my kid loved wrestling (and I have two kids in youth wrestling now) if there was a kid on his team who did this and faced zero consequences he wouldn't be on that team. If he wanted to continue to wrestle he could do club wrestling or he could enroll in another school.

According to TrackWrestling, Blume competed in a couple state/national tourneys over the summer and fall. Not sure if he’s still part of Sebolt or if he competed on his own.

 

[Cyforce]

This is what I was thinking too. How do the other parents allow this? I’d raise hell.

Are we talking about the parents of the wrestlers that were there? If so not a surprise.

 

[BryceC]

I'm not excusing the schools or personnel in the schools as I agree these acts of violence/harassments/assault are absolutely horrific and deserve punishment....that being said I think schools are just so hamstrung anymore. My wife teaches at a middle school and she often feels helpless and powerless. Everything is a lawsuit waiting to happen. If kids act out, they are often larger than her and they don't give one damn about getting in trouble on top of very little support/structure at home. The best she can do is get her admin or other teachers to come in and somehow help defuse the student or take him/her away from the classroom. I realize this is more of a systemic issue and not exactly the situation we're seeing at R-S just more of a general observation.

When I was a kid and got in trouble at school even something minor, I was scared to death the teachers would tell my parents. The thought of them enabling or helping me weasel out of situations never crossed my mind.

If I'm the R-S AD, I would absolutely tell the kid he's not wrestling this year and he has to do a large list of community service, punishments ect ect if he wants a shot to wrestle his senior year. I would take a hard stance even if there are lawsuits coming. At the worst you're telling the community you are standing up for what is right. Of course easier said that done.

What you're talking about with your wife is a shame too, but the big difference is that we say kids have a right to an education. They don't have a right to be part of a wrestling team. The situation with your wife is difficult but at least I can understand why.

As to your last sentence, of course it's easier said than done. Put if you put yourself in a leadership position, IMO you're agreeing to do the hard thing even if it's right. Every damn one of the adults in this situation is a coward. Every one. And if I'm ever coaching a team where something truly awful like this happens and I just go along to get along, I'd be a damn coward too.

 

[Acylum]

I can’t help but feel there’s something to this story we’re not being let in on. Nothing makes sense.

 

[BCClone]

What you're talking about with your wife is a shame too, but the big difference is that we say kids have a right to an education. They don't have a right to be part of a wrestling team. The situation with your wife is difficult but at least I can understand why.

As to your last sentence, of course it's easier said than done. Put if you put yourself in a leadership position, IMO you're agreeing to do the hard thing even if it's right. Every damn one of the adults in this situation is a coward. Every one. And if I'm ever coaching a team where something truly awful like this happens and I just go along to get along, I'd be a damn coward too.

Two things:

1) I agree with the part where the coaches, admins and all should be canned for letting this kid wrestle. I don't know their school policy but I would be looking at ways to expel the kid from my school if I was an admin at it. Not what I want festering at my school if I was.

2) The parents are probably the biggest cowards, they apparently raised a kid to believe that this crap is alright. This is the biggest problem of everything most of the time. Teachers are considered to be in a leadership role. I can't tell you how many calls I used to take (when cell phone numbers weren't given out or facebook contacts weren't common) from parents and I could overhear how the parents always blamed "the other kid" and their kid did nothing. Hate to break it, but ALL kids lie. Some more than others and some will just lie by not giving all information or twisting it just a smidge. When my kid got in trouble at school, they were punished. They knew that punishment at home was worse than the schools and all I needed was contact from the school, so it kept them in check for the most part. I didn't beat my kid, but grounding, taking away things they can do and other things isn't not hurting the kid. It does make it harder since I would have to run the kid to school if they lost their vehicle for a bit, but the embarrassment the kid got by dad dropping them off only needed once to have that threat carry a lot of water.

 

[BryceC]

Two things:

1) I agree with the part where the coaches, admins and all should be canned for letting this kid wrestle. I don't know their school policy but I would be looking at ways to expel the kid from my school if I was an admin at it. Not what I want festering at my school if I was.

2) The parents are probably the biggest cowards, they apparently raised a kid to believe that this crap is alright. This is the biggest problem of everything most of the time. Teachers are considered to be in a leadership role. I can't tell you how many calls I used to take (when cell phone numbers weren't given out or facebook contacts weren't common) from parents and I could overhear how the parents always blamed "the other kid" and their kid did nothing. Hate to break it, but ALL kids lie. Some more than others and some will just lie by not giving all information or twisting it just a smidge. When my kid got in trouble at school, they were punished. They knew that punishment at home was worse than the schools and all I needed was contact from the school, so it kept them in check for the most part. I didn't beat my kid, but grounding, taking away things they can do and other things isn't not hurting the kid. It does make it harder since I would have to run the kid to school if they lost their vehicle for a bit, but the embarrassment the kid got by dad dropping them off only needed once to have that threat carry a lot of water.

Good points and I don't disagree at all.

 

[GrayerClone]

WHO TV has a story saying 1 school board member has resigned immediately. I would love to know who knew what, when? The whole decision making process on this situation seems very poor.

 

[BryceC]

WHO TV has a story saying 1 school board member has resigned immediately. I would love to know who knew what, when? The whole decision making process on this situation seems very poor.

School board member resigns over handling of high school wrestler’s assault case

STORY COUNTY, Iowa — A school board member in the Roland-Story Community School District has resigned, citing in part, the handling of an assault case against a champion high school wrestler.…

who13.com

Nothing but deep respect for Jasmine Goeders. Tough stand to take as we discussed earlier but it's the right one if everyone is just going to sit on their hands.

Previous story:

Parents make emotional plea to Roland-Story school board about handling of alleged assault

STORY CITY, Iowa — An overflow crowd of people wanted to address the Roland-Story school board Monday night in the wake of an alleged assault in April; earlier

kdsm17.com

 

[BigTurk]

So, to be clear, there are parents wanting this kid to remain on the wrestling team?

 

[CyCrazy]

So, to be clear, there are parents wanting this kid to remain on the wrestling team?

Yes, and I have a buddy who is a wrestling honk. He emailed the IHSSA and said they cant do anything. He also told me the cheerleaders have to cheer for him or quit. My buddy has kids who wrestle for Nevada and this isnt going well for RS. People are pissed off.

 

[cycloneG]

A similar situation but this happened on school property

Ankeny teen hospitalized after brutal beating at school

An Iowa mom says she didn't know how bad the bullying was until she saw a video of her son being assaulted.

www.kcci.com

 

[Al_4_State]

So, to be clear, there are parents wanting this kid to remain on the wrestling team?

Have you met wrestling people before?

This isn't surprising in the least bit. And I'm not saying everyone who's into wrestling is this way, but some of the most disgusting displays of poor sportsmanship and public treatment of children I saw growing up was at the little kid wrestling meets I had to attend (because my brother wrestled) in north Iowa/southern Minnesota as a kid.

There are a whole lot of people who give 0 ***** as long as you win. It's why Hugh Freeze is coaching at Auburn. Lowering the level doesn't really change how people are willing to let **** slide for a winner.

 

[BigTurk]

Yes, and I have a buddy who is a wrestling honk. He emailed the IHSSA and said they cant do anything. He also told me the cheerleaders have to cheer for him or quit. My buddy has kids who wrestle for Nevada and this isnt going well for RS. People are pissed off.

JFC, so your buddy wants him to continue wrestling? What for? Your buddy has a dog in this hunt?

I am sure this Kade kid’s parents are ok with him wrestling too.

At least RS isn’t hosting a drag show or allowing trans kids into sports because that is sexually disgusting. Forcibly shoving a pencil up another kid is ok though because they aren’t gay/trans.

 

[CyCrazy]

JFC, so your buddy wants him to continue wrestling? What for? Your buddy has a dog in this hunt?

I am sure this Kade kid’s parents are ok with him wrestling too.

At least RS isn’t hosting a drag show or allowing trans kids into sports because that is sexually disgusting. Forcibly shoving a pencil up another kid is ok though because they aren’t gay/trans.

What? My buddy does not want to see him wrestling again. Many other people around here feel the same way. I dont know how you came up with that, and what does this have to do with a drag show or trans kids? WTF

 

[Al_4_State]

What? My buddy does not want to see him wrestling again. Many other people around here feel the same way. I dont know how you came up with that, and what does this have to do with a drag show or trans kids? WTF

I think he's saying that the people who are convinced that drag shows are going on in elementary schools are the same ones who think shoving a pencil up a kid's ass hole is totally fine if the kid doing it is good at sports are the same people.

 

[BigTurk]

What? My buddy does not want to see him wrestling again. Many other people around here feel the same way. I dont know how you came up with that, and what does this have to do with a drag show or trans kids? WTF

I misunderstood your post about your buddy. I thought he was writing in support of the wrestler. My apologies.

The last part wasn't aimed at you just those in support of Kade and how the school isn't doing anything.

 

[CyCrazy]

I misunderstood your post about your buddy. I thought he was writing in support of the wrestler. My apologies.

The last part wasn't aimed at you just those in support of Kade and how the school isn't doing anything.

Fair enough context on a message board can be hard to read. Simply he should be expelled and not wrestling.

 

[cytor]

Roland-Story wrestling champ charged with felony assault

STORY COUNTY, IOWA — A Roland teenager and two-time state wrestling champion is being charged with Felony Assault for allegedly penetrating a victim’s anus with an object. According to …

who13.com

This kid is the perfect fit for the Brands brothers.

 

[CyCrazy]

I think he's saying that the people who are convinced that drag shows are going on in elementary schools are the same ones who think shoving a pencil up a kid's ass hole is totally fine if the kid doing it is good at sports are the same people.

Couldn't agree more, Story City is in a battle over this.